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How to feel your feelings and improve your emotional intelligence

Feeling your feelings is hard and a lot of us grew up in homes where feelings were not tolerated or expressed. Working on your emotional intelligence can help you cope with depression, anxiety, and process unresolved traumas. Plus can help you have healthier, happier relationships!

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How to Stop the Top Three Thinking Mistakes Perfectionists Do

Your mind can literally make you sick with worry when you are a perfectionist. Perfectionists often struggle with anxiety, depression, and emotional sensitivity, making it hard to function at their best at work and at home. Here are the most common thinking mistakes that people with perfectionism struggle with. Plus how to stop it!

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How to Make Drama Free Relationships.

Good relations don’t just happen, they are created and maintained. But just how do you create drama-free relationships, where you aren’t fighting all the time, and where you feel understood?

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7 Common Fights Couples Have and How To Work Through Them

Wondering if what you and your partner fight about is normal? That is exactly what today’s post is all about. At the end of the day, we just want to communicate better, feel understood, and feel connected with our partner, husband, or wife. Let’s unpack just how to do that.

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A Couples Guide to Having Better Fights

When we fight in our relationships it feels the worst. Fighting is not necessarily a bad thing and is often part of a otherwise healthy relationship. It is not about never fighting again but instead the goal might be to lessen the amounts of fights and to ensure fights are healthy. Learn more about how to actually have better fights.

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Why Is Self Compassion So Hard And How To Work On It.

Self-compassion is something that people often don’t realize has its roots in childhood. Being negative and self-hating might be a protective strategy that you have learned, but it is possible and so worth it to unlearn this “skill.”

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How to Spice Things Up Again With Your Partner.

Relationship can get boring and that spark is often lost for couples and marriages. And I am talking about not just your sex life. In addition to seeking out couples or marriage therapy, I want to share other things you can do to help you regain that spark and spice.

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Preparing for Pregnancy: A Therapist’s Tips.

Pregnancy can bring up a lot of complicated feelings, very high highs and often very low lows. Anxiety, obsessive thoughts, and depression are common during pregnancy. In addition to seeking out therapy I want to share other things you can do to help you mentally prepare for pregnancy.

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How to Feel More Confident by Addressing Root Cause Issues.

Feeling more confident sometimes feels like a lifelong struggle, I get that. Struggles with confidence can impact your work and home life. Learn how to feel more confidence and live a life where you feel you aren’t constantly doubting yourself.

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Couples Therapist’s Tips For How to Rebuild Trust.

Rebuilding trust in a relationship after it has been broken is not easy. The three basic steps include: first, take responsibility for the role you played, second, listen to your partner's perspective and accept their feelings, and third, envision and work towards your new relationship together. Let me share with you what I have learn works when rebuilding trust.

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How to Stop Being So Negative and Judgy All The Time.

How to be less judgy and negative is something that I have heard a lot of my clients talking about and I just felt for them, because this is something that has been part of my own personal journey too. Here are my go to tips for what works for me and others.

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What to Do If You Have Outgrown Your Partner.

People outgrow their relationships and marriages all the time. It is important to live your one precious life but also we don’t want to run away from things that couples therapy can help you overcome. Learn more about why people outgrow their romantic relationship, and when to call it quits or decide if this is something you can work through.

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17 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Get Married.

Thinking about if this relationship is headed towards a more serious space? How do you even know if you are ready for marriage? Being able to ask yourself questions about what your hoping for in marriage can really help you get closer to an answer about what to do next and set you and your partner up for a successful marriage.

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7 Strategies For Healthier Conflict With Your Partner.

Conflict happens, but how do you fight in a way that makes sense? Learn the communication skills and strategies that I teach couples, to help them fight less and fight in a more healthy way when they do. You deserve a relationship that feels good.

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