Couples Therapy & Trauma Informed Individual Therapy in San Diego
Serving all of California, including Chula Vista, Fresno, Irvine, Orange County, Los Angeles, Sacramento, San Diego, San Francisco, and San Jose
San Diego Therapist
I provide couples therapy and individual therapy with a trauma focus across the state of California. As a couples therapist and individual trauma therapist, I help people unpack, how their upbringing including, past traumas, micro and macro aggressions, culture, race, and ethnicity, may be impacting the way that they show up in their adult relationships. I help people feel more present, confident, and able to navigate their relationships from a place of understanding how the messages that they have received growing up might be impacting how they relate to the world around them. This includes their relationships at both work and home. Our upbringing and culture impact the way we view and navigate our lives. If you are struggling with how your upbringing including, past traumas, micro and macro aggressions, culture, race, and ethnicity, impacts how you engage with others, couples therapy or individual therapy with a trauma approach might be right for you!
Couples & Individual Therapy in San Diego
In both my work in couples therapy and individual therapy, I work with clients to unpack how their upbringing including, past traumas, micro and macro aggressions, culture, race, and ethnicity, may be impacting the struggles that they are facing. I work with clients to take a hard look into the messages that they have received, helping them identify what their values are, and how they would like to live their life. Together we create a plan to help them live a life where they can gain the ability to communicate and live their life according to values that bring them healing and wellness. Below is a list of common issues addressed in couples counseling and in individual counseling.
Common issues addressed in couples therapy
Feeling distant and feeling like the person you share a bed with is a stranger
Feeling like you are having the same argument over and over again
Struggling with “me-ness” and “we-ness” with in your relationship
Lack of joy, fun, and play with your partner, spouse, girlfriend, or boyfriend
Worried about how to approach any topic with your partner, spouse, girlfriend, or boyfriend, for fear that it will turn into an argument.
Feeling like you are struggling with the four horsemen as discussed in Gottman Couples Therapy : criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stone walling
Feeling like you are struggling with Emotionally Focused Therapy Demon Dialogues: Freeze and Flee, the Protest Polka, and Find the Bad Guy
Feeling like conflicts always end in shutting down, tears, a holding grudges
Having a feeling like this reminds you about your childhood home or a relationship that you have with your mother or father
Wondering if culture, ethnicity, race, religion, sexual identity and orientation, the micro and macro aggression or traumas, might be impacting your relationship with your partner, spouse, girlfriend, or boyfriend
Feeling like a past toxic relationship continues to impact how you show up in your current relationship with your partner, spouse, girlfriend, or boyfriend
Inability or difficulty with being able to feel calm and emotionally safe around your partner, spouse, girlfriend, or boyfriend
Struggling with feelings of co-dependency or too much independence from you partner, spouse, girlfriend, or boyfriend
Difficulty with communicating with your partner, spouse, girlfriend, or boyfriend
Feeling anxious, overwhelmed, depressed, or avoidant when needing to talk with your partner, spouse, girlfriend, or boyfriend
Trouble with sex and intimacy, not being able to have conversations about sex and intimacy with your partner, spouse, girlfriend, or boyfriend
Wanting to talk with your partner, spouse, girlfriend, or boyfriend about uncouple, divorcing, or breaking up
Common issues addressed in individual therapy with a trauma informed focus
Feeling like you are always behind and never good enough
Struggling with a sense of emptiness, lack of self worth, and low confidence
Stressed and worried, often avoiding things and people who might stress you out
Struggling to know what is your path in life vs the path your parents wanted for you
Experience a midlife crisis or quarter life crisis
Feeling like you are lost and not knowing who you are
Irritable and easily annoyed
Feeling crippled with perfectionism and always procrastinating.
Trouble with doing things that use to bring you joy
Feeling like people in your life don’t get it and you can’t find the words to communicate with them
Feeling like your culture, race, ethnicity, religion, or upbringing, the micro and macro aggression or traumas, impacts how you want to live your life
Not sure what your values are and unsure about how to live authentically
Experienced something that was either a big T trauma or little t trauma, feeling like it is continuing to impact you in the present day
Online therapy in San Diego
Online therapy, or teletherapy, is therapy done outside of a traditional therapy office, often from the comfort of your own home. As long as we have privacy, therapy can be done from a private office at work, a private study room at school, a safely parked car, , or from the comfort of your own apartment. Research shows that teletherapy or online therapy, is just as effective as traditional therapy where you come into the office.
Online therapy is convenient and works for people who have busy schedules, don’t have the time to deal with traffic and the commute to a therapy session at a therapy office. With online counseling or teletherapy, you can hop on to your appointment right at the start of your scheduled therapy session from your computer, laptop, or phone.
I recommend that you have a drink, some tissues, and a pair of headphones so that you can make the most of your online therapy experience. Also if you have a pet they're welcome to join and give you comfort during our sessions together. You might even catch a glimpse of my own puppers!
