https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog daily 0.75 2025-02-28 https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/how-to-communicate-better-with-your-partner-tips-from-a-san-diego-eft-couples-therapist monthly 0.5 2025-02-28 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - How to communicate better with your partner: tips from a SD couples therapist. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. I am a Latina therapist specializing in couples counseling and anxious, conflict-avoidant individuals who are struggling with relationships. Additionally, racial and cultural issues and stressors, late diagnosed adult ADHD, and EMDR therapy is a bulk of my current online San Diego therapy practice. I am a mental health therapist who is licensed in Arizona and California, meaning I can see people in either state from the comfort of their homes. 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What is EFT couples therapy? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - How to communicate better with your partner: tips from a SD couples therapist. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/sandiegoemdrtherapyforinnerchild monthly 0.5 2024-12-16 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ddb1a064-054e-49c3-a6aa-8d18760852c1/pexels-vlada-karpovich-4668523.jpg Blog - Can EMDR therapy help you heal your inner child and why? - Yes EMDR therapy can help you reach and heal your inner child often better than talk therapy alone. The body does in fact keep the score just like research has proven for years and your inner child lives deep within your nervous system. A vagus nerve that is over or under-active and adrenal fatigue can often be the result of unprocessed trauma. EMDR therapy has been around for decades, and it is backed by science. This one of my favorite modalities as both a therapist and client. I have done both talk therapy and more somatic work like EMDR and once you try EMDR work you will never want to do just talk therapy again. Keep reading to hear more about why as a local San Diego therapist, I highly recommend clients give EMDR a try if they want deeper healing of their inner child. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - Can EMDR therapy help you heal your inner child and why? - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. I am a Latina therapist specializing in couples counseling and anxious, conflict-avoidant individuals who are struggling with relationships. Additionally, racial and cultural issues and stressors, late diagnosed adult ADHD, and EMDR therapy is a bulk of my current online San Diego therapy practice. I am a mental health therapist who is licensed in Arizona and California, meaning I can see people in either state from the comfort of their homes. Check out my about page to learn more about how I can help. And feel free to explore my specialties page to see if I can help you create and sustain thriving relationships. 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And feel free to explore my specialties page to see if I can help you create and sustain thriving relationships. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1727983027777-60JZYAMJVX086LVQ6TBK/pexels-wildlittlethingsphoto-4279129.jpg Blog - Tips for rebuilding trust and having hard conversations. - Trust is foundational in having a healthy relationship https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1696878313965-GSO2KQVR4WLN7DLMWR4O/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4651066.jpg Blog - Tips for rebuilding trust and having hard conversations. - How attachment issues create trust issues As a Latina couples therapist, I have specialized training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, where attachment theory and attachment science can help us create healthy relationships. Here are some key takeaways on how an insecure attachment can create unhealthy relationships. Check out books, like “Hold Me Tight” to learn more. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - Tips for rebuilding trust and having hard conversations. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/an-easy-to-follow-guide-to-help-you-mentally-survive-the-2024-2025-holidays-sd-couples-therapy monthly 0.5 2024-10-31 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/3987fccc-fd90-4676-a726-c43f799ad1bb/pexels-cottonbro-studio-5791657.jpg Blog - An easy-to-follow guide to help you mentally survive the 2024-2025 holiday season. - Holiday stress can make you feel anxious, irritable, and burnt out. Holidays are a hot topic this time of year in my San Diego private therapy practice. Whether I am working with an individual client on their burnout, perfectionism, or unprocessed trauma or if I am working with a couple on their attachment styles and communication issues, the holidays come up daily this time of year. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1727983027777-60JZYAMJVX086LVQ6TBK/pexels-wildlittlethingsphoto-4279129.jpg Blog - An easy-to-follow guide to help you mentally survive the 2024-2025 holiday season. - How to be more happy this holiday season in Sand Diego 2024-2025. Happiness is a by-product of doing the things you love. It doesn’t just happen. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/b20396e9-45a2-49ca-9d69-21e84d4c2d39/pexels-alex-green-5699759.jpg Blog - An easy-to-follow guide to help you mentally survive the 2024-2025 holiday season. - You aren’t weak, the holidays are tough. Holidays are a busy season and a stressful time of the year for many people. There are lots of events, and people to see and mingle with. There are often deadlines at work. There’s just a lot around the holidays and our brains are often over-extended. We find ourselves saying yes to lots of things and people and then find ourselves short on time. The go-go-go takes a toll on people’s mental health during the holidays. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - An easy-to-follow guide to help you mentally survive the 2024-2025 holiday season. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - An easy-to-follow guide to help you mentally survive the 2024-2025 holiday season. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. I am a Latina therapist specializing in couples counseling and anxious, conflict-avoidant individuals who are struggling with relationships. Additionally, racial and cultural issues and stressors, late diagnosed adult ADHD, and EMDR therapy is a bulk of my current online San Diego therapy practice. I am a mental health therapist who is licensed in Arizona and California, meaning I can see people in either state from the comfort of their homes. Check out my about page to learn more about how I can help. And feel free to explore my specialties page to see if I can help you create and sustain thriving relationships. 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Additionally, racial and cultural issues and stressors, late diagnosed adult ADHD, and EMDR therapy is a bulk of my current online San Diego therapy practice. I am a mental health therapist who is licensed in Arizona and California, meaning I can see people in either state from the comfort of their homes. Check out my about page to learn more about how I can help. And feel free to explore my specialties page to see if I can help you create and sustain thriving relationships. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/how-to-heal-your-relationship-with-money monthly 0.5 2024-10-17 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1685057902442-91UY9IWLU857CLKRFXSH/pexels-ekaterina-bolovtsova-4049786+%281%29.jpg Blog - How to heal your relationship with money - Money issues are one of the most common stressors that people experience. Whether it is struggling to pay the bills, struggling to spend money in a healthy way, or just feeling overwhelmed learning about personal finace, people stress a lot about money. As a therapist I see this in all the time in my San Diego therapy practice. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - How to heal your relationship with money - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - How to heal your relationship with money - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. I am a Latina therapist specializing in couples counseling and anxious, conflict-avoidant individuals who are struggling with relationships. Additionally, racial and cultural issues and stressors, late diagnosed adult ADHD, and EMDR therapy is a bulk of my current online San Diego therapy practice. I am a mental health therapist who is licensed in Arizona and California, meaning I can see people in either state from the comfort of their homes. Check out my about page to learn more about how I can help. And feel free to explore my specialties page to see if I can help you create and sustain thriving relationships. 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Why is it so hard to fit in. Maybe it’s the ADHD. It is 2am and your mind is racing. Thoughts and thoughts and you can’t sleep. What is wrong with me? Why do things seem to go wrong, why is it so hard for me to get my life together? I am tired all the time and I HATE conflict. Am I just attracting bad people and drama? Why do I fight with my partner, husband, wife, friends all the time? Maybe I am just overly sensitive. Am I the problem? Why can’t I just fit in. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - Bad at relationships or untreated ADHD? - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. I am a Latina therapist specializing in couples counseling and anxious, conflict-avoidant individuals who are struggling with relationships. Additionally, racial and cultural issues and stressors, late diagnosed adult ADHD, and EMDR therapy is a bulk of my current online San Diego therapy practice. I am a mental health therapist who is licensed in Arizona and California, meaning I can see people in either state from the comfort of their homes. Check out my about page to learn more about how I can help. And feel free to explore my specialties page to see if I can help you create and sustain thriving relationships. 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Often talk therapy is not enough and deeper therapies like Emotionally focused therapy and EMDR therapy can be so helpful in releasing past trauma and stress. Plus it can help you feel more confident going forward with future templates with business endeavors performance, and building up your social circles (Call and ask me about this). https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/templatehow-to-feel-your-feelings-and-improve-your-emotional-intelligence monthly 0.5 2024-03-18 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - How to feel your feelings and improve your emotional intelligence - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - How to feel your feelings and improve your emotional intelligence - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. I am a Latina therapist specializing in couples counseling and anxious individuals struggling with relationships. I have a special focus working with BIPOC folks, interracial partnerships, or those who came from chaotic childhood homes who want to break cycles and step into a more peaceful way of doing life. Childhood trauma and attachment wounds are my thing! I am a mental health therapist who is licensed in Arizona and California, meaning I can see people in either state from the comfort of their home. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you creating and sustain thriving relationships. 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Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. I am a Latina therapist specializing in couples counseling and anxious individuals struggling with relationships. I have a special focus working with BIPOC folks, interracial partnerships, or those who came from chaotic childhood homes who want to break cycles and step into a more peaceful way of doing life. Childhood trauma and attachment wounds are my thing! I am a mental health therapist who is licensed in Arizona and California, meaning I can see people in either state from the comfort of their home. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you creating and sustain thriving relationships. 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I have a special focus working with BIPOC folks, interracial partnerships, or those who came from chaotic childhood homes who want to break cycles and step into a more peaceful way of doing life. Childhood trauma and attachment wounds are my thing! I am a mental health therapist who is licensed in Arizona and California, meaning I can see people in either state from the comfort of their home. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you creating and sustain thriving relationships. 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Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling and individuals struggling with relationships, especially for those who are BIPOC, or in interracial partnerships wanting to break cycles so that they step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. Since I am dually licensed, meaning I am a therapist licensed in both California or Arizona, perfect for people who travel often or live in two different states. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson, 100% online. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you creating and sustain thriving relationships. 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You feel tenses around this person You feel like you are walking on eggshells You feel like you are overreacting You feel like you are going crazy You feel like nothing you say ever goes well and always ends up in a fight Fights with this person go in circles and never come to a solution or compromise You feel misunderstood You feel irritable, annoyed, and sad- lots of mixed feelings! https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - How to Make Drama Free Relationships. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - How to Make Drama Free Relationships. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling and individuals struggling with relationships, especially for those who are BIPOC, or in interracial partnerships wanting to break cycles so that they step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both California or Arizona, perfect for people who travel often. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson, 100% online. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you creating and sustain thriving relationships. 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Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling and individuals struggling with relationships, especially for those who are BIPOC, or in interracial partnerships wanting to break cycles so that they step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both California or Arizona, perfect for people who travel often. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson, 100% online. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. 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Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling and individuals struggling with relationships, especially for those who are BIPOC, or in interracial partnerships wanting to break cycles so that they step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both California or Arizona, perfect for people who travel often. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson, 100% online. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you creating and sustain thriving relationships. 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Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling and relationships issues, especially for BIPOC, 1 and 2 gens, and people wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I am dually licensed in California and Arizona. I work with people all over California and San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla all 100% online therapy. And in Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. 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Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. 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Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. 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My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. 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Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/35dc3ffc-1f77-4fb8-afa6-9b34593e27db/pexels-photo-5427947.jpg Blog - Preparing for Pregnancy: A Therapist’s Tips. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/c44a27f0-1cad-429d-82c6-461d624ccdf8/pexels-rdne-stock-project-6149354.jpg Blog - Preparing for Pregnancy: A Therapist’s Tips. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/80aca936-fec5-4c56-837d-be5a993b9588/pexels-photo-7155648.jpg Blog - Preparing for Pregnancy: A Therapist’s Tips. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - Preparing for Pregnancy: A Therapist’s Tips. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/f4c2fb1d-e340-4bad-ab72-6d82ea2c4152/pexels-photo-7780589.jpg Blog - Preparing for Pregnancy: A Therapist’s Tips. - Should you go to couples therapy while you are pregnant? Yes! Going to couples therapy during pregnancy can be a great way to address issues before they become bigger issues. This is a great way to address the mental health of both you and your partner in a preventative way as opposed to last resort years down the line. Often times I see couples reaching out for therapy when things are really difficult in their relationship and it can be discouraging realizing just how deep some wounds go and the amount of work needed to repair the relationship. It is doable! But coming in earlier for couples therapy will increase your chance at having a happier, healthier relationship. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/how-to-feel-more-confident-fresno-emdr-therapist-tips-for-self-compassion monthly 0.5 2023-07-18 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - How to Feel More Confident by Addressing Root Cause Issues. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1689371995423-OPCZ9JDYD6WHPXKNYIWQ/pexels-radomir-jordanovic-1644888.jpg Blog - How to Feel More Confident by Addressing Root Cause Issues. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1662920475128-1W8L9O1O0XXMAA8XY7RX/pexels-bethany-ferr-5482652.jpg Blog - How to Feel More Confident by Addressing Root Cause Issues. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1686870137660-ZNYIJZ3H8BJGXCMGZ8ZU/pexels-vlada-karpovich-4668523.jpg Blog - How to Feel More Confident by Addressing Root Cause Issues. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - How to Feel More Confident by Addressing Root Cause Issues. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/b2ab4872-0618-4466-9775-e9e7021ca555/pexels-yan-krukov-8837188.jpg Blog - How to Feel More Confident by Addressing Root Cause Issues. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/couples-therapists-tips-for-how-to-rebuild-trust-after-it-has-been-broken monthly 0.5 2023-07-13 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - Couples Therapist’s Tips For How to Rebuild Trust. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1688683462212-Z9BHL34CA706VT2B74RW/pexels-rodnae-productions-6670198.jpg Blog - Couples Therapist’s Tips For How to Rebuild Trust. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/8109862c-2498-46ae-9b0f-d6a32a1db025/pexels-pavel-danilyuk-8552942.jpg Blog - Couples Therapist’s Tips For How to Rebuild Trust. - There are three basic steps to repair relationships after trust has been broken due to various things like betrayal, gambling, or lying. Take responsibility for the role you played Empathize: listen to your partner's perspective and accept their feelings Envision and work towards your new relationship together https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - Couples Therapist’s Tips For How to Rebuild Trust. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/template-tXgk0-9afsb-mgxgm monthly 0.5 2023-07-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1682987516007-3PRTGD4NMYYJ7PVZ77BM/pexels-timur-weber-8560657.jpg Blog - How to Stop Being So Negative and Judgy All The Time. - Negative consequences to being judgy and pessimistic. Wasting a lot of mental energy being in a bad mood Low self-esteem and self-worth Struggles with sleep Emotional eating Emotional spending Relationship drama and issues Feeling lonely and depressed Excessive worry and anxiety Headaches and lower immunity Less productive at work Barely surviving and always in chaos https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ed3e8b91-d657-443a-9646-3cc6dd841e12/pexels-vlada-karpovich-4668523.jpg Blog - How to Stop Being So Negative and Judgy All The Time. - Working on letting go of your inner critic and healing your inner child. As a therapist who just loves to support people who are wanting to address their inner child wounds and healing their harsh inner critic, being able to let go is so powerful. Letting go of what is not serving you is one of the biggest steps towards being able to heal your inner childhood wounds. Therapy for inner child wounds can really help, particularly a therapist who is trained in more somatic-based therapy like EFT and EMDR therapy. People often have inner child wounds without even realizing it. But once we do the work to connect with and heal the “little me” you will find that life becomes a whole lot easier and you will feel less judgy and negative (that inner critic will relax). Deeper therapies like EMDR can really help a person who is wanting to heal their childhood trauma. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1681250572106-63TODUH2YYB7JQCRVW44/pexels-karolina-grabowska-5908779.jpg Blog - How to Stop Being So Negative and Judgy All The Time. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - How to Stop Being So Negative and Judgy All The Time. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - How to Stop Being So Negative and Judgy All The Time. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/what-to-do-if-you-have-outgrown-your-partner monthly 0.5 2023-07-06 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/dfe4d98b-6363-4699-9bcc-72e09ae72fb9/pexels-pnw-production-8998179.jpg Blog - What to Do If You Have Outgrown Your Partner. - If you are leaning towards trying to make it work before you make a choice to leave your partner or end your marriage there are some things to consider. In order to grow with your husband, wife, or partner two things must happen. Your partner must want to grow with you and you both have to be willing to have the conversations to get there. Couples therapy can really be a nice space to figure out if you have outgrown one another and how to grow back together as a couple. Couples therapy can also help you and your partner prevent outgrowing one another. It can be hard when you are the partner who has been left behind, something that people rarely have the words to express. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - What to Do If You Have Outgrown Your Partner. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/889694d0-aff4-4ed0-96ed-953ef141fc33/pexels-rodnae-productions-6670198.jpg Blog - What to Do If You Have Outgrown Your Partner. - The fighting never ends. Are you having trouble sleeping at night, feeling like all you ever do is fight with your partner? Sometimes it feels like you are talking to a brick wall and that they just don’t get it. You feel like you have tried over and over again to have a talk about fixing things between the two of you, but it always backfires. It’s always the same stuff: sex, finances, inlaws, and fairness in emotional labor. One of you ends up on the couch and then there is a competition for who can hold the longest grudge. You can help but wonder Have I outgrown this relationship; Did I outgrow my partner? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - What to Do If You Have Outgrown Your Partner. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/how-to-stop-imposter-syndrome-at-work-with-emdr-therapy monthly 0.5 2023-06-30 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/011b7147-fd73-4db6-8acb-80628b13a3d4/pexels-liza-summer-6382633.jpg Blog - How to Stop People Pleasing & Imposter Syndrome at Work and Home With EMDR Therapy. - If you people-please you probably have Imposter Syndrome. Signs of Imposter Syndrome: 1. Self-doubt 2. Perfectionism 3. Discounting success 4. Fear of failure 5. Comparing oneself to others 6. Overworking 7. Anxiety and stress 8. Difficulty accepting praise 9. Difficulty internalizing success Women are greatly impacted by this as they struggle to do it all and are overly hard on themselves. Women of color (BIPOC women) are at greater risk of imposter syndrome, burnout, and people pleasing because of socialization and systemic pressures. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1685057902442-91UY9IWLU857CLKRFXSH/pexels-ekaterina-bolovtsova-4049786+%281%29.jpg Blog - How to Stop People Pleasing & Imposter Syndrome at Work and Home With EMDR Therapy. - Unlock Your Career Potential with Therapy 1. Gain Clarity and Direction 2. Build Resilience and Overcome Obstacles 3. Develop Effective Communication Skills 4. Manage Stress and Achieve Work-Life Balance 5. Enhance Emotional Intelligence 6. Overcome Limiting Beliefs and Imposter Syndrome https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - How to Stop People Pleasing & Imposter Syndrome at Work and Home With EMDR Therapy. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ed3e8b91-d657-443a-9646-3cc6dd841e12/pexels-vlada-karpovich-4668523.jpg Blog - How to Stop People Pleasing & Imposter Syndrome at Work and Home With EMDR Therapy. - How EMDR can help with people pleasing and imposter syndrome. EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapy can help individuals who struggle with people-pleasing tendencies. People pleasing and imposter syndrome can be linked to a chaotic childhood or trauma and EMDR therapy is a great therapy. EMDR Therapy treats the root causes of imposter syndrome and people pleasing not just the symptoms. By targeting and reprocessing distressing memories, past, present, and future, EMDR Therapy aims to desensitize the associated negative emotions and beliefs, making room for more adaptive or positive thinking. Through EMDR Therapy, people pleasers can find relief from the anxiety and unwarranted guilt, leading to healthier relationships with others and themselves. A more balanced and authentic way of being. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/a593d092-7d9a-46d1-bd91-462ce386433f/pexels-matilda-wormwood-4099325.jpg Blog - How to Stop People Pleasing & Imposter Syndrome at Work and Home With EMDR Therapy. - Imposter syndrome feels terrible and often painful. People pleasing and working harder is not the solution. As a trauma informed Latina therapist serving people in San Diego and all over California and Phoenix and all over Arizona, people initially come into therapy want to address people-pleasing, imposter syndrome, and deep feelings of anxiety. Depending on the level of work people want to do, we start to put the bigger picture together and get to the root causes of their people pleasing, imposter syndrome, and deep feelings of anxiety. Subconsciously we often repeat the patterns we had as children in our adult lives. Lots of people come from chaotic childhood homes and are raised by emotionally immature parents. We repeat cycles until we wake up, make changes, and heal. That’s where therapy can really help a person thrive and finally feel calm, confident, and like they are actually good enough. Imposter syndrome is common in people of color (BIPOC) and in women. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1681250572106-63TODUH2YYB7JQCRVW44/pexels-karolina-grabowska-5908779.jpg Blog - How to Stop People Pleasing & Imposter Syndrome at Work and Home With EMDR Therapy. - Imagine a world where you felt good enough. Imposter syndrome often shows up as anxiety, low self worth, low self esteem, and people pleasing. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1678901284788-5RPR9YSR8VSJF0A1D8ZE/pexels-yan-krukov-8837188.jpg Blog - How to Stop People Pleasing & Imposter Syndrome at Work and Home With EMDR Therapy. - Looking for ways to take care of your anxiety related to imposter syndrome and people pleasing? Here are some tips! Therapy is a wonderful tool for treating anxiety, perfectionism, imposter syndrome, people pleasing, and burn out. But there are lots of holistic things you can start doing right now to help you cope and heal. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - How to Stop People Pleasing & Imposter Syndrome at Work and Home With EMDR Therapy. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/17-questions-to-ask-yourself-before-you-get-married monthly 0.5 2023-06-27 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1686871224483-RHB5H3SS8JR40ZRM3BMO/pexels-mizuno-k-13334671.jpg Blog - 17 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Get Married. - Do I need couples therapy or are my issues for individual therapy? Great questions and there is no easy answer, but I am trained as both a couples therapist and trauma-informed therapist helping people with relationship issues. I can consult with you and help you get started. Half of my work is couples while the other half of my work is helping people heal from chaotic childhoods. When I work with someone individually on their upbringing, whether it was healing from emotionally immature parents or childhood abuse, I support people in letting go of deep narratives. I blend EMDR therapy wit parts work, or Internal Family Systems, as I find this to be the most helpful in helping people deeply process what is in their subconscious and deep in their bodies. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - 17 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Get Married. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/a598bda9-fbf2-4ed1-a80b-8c4c8d57b065/pexels-rodnae-productions-8231136.jpg Blog - 17 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Get Married. - How can I be sure if I am ready for marriage? Thinking about popping the question of marriage? Thinking about if this relationship is headed towards a more serious space? How do you even know if you are ready for marriage? The short answer to if you are ready for marriage is there is no real answer, but being able to ask yourself questions about what your hoping for in marriage can really help you get closer to an answer. Keep reading and I will share some journal prompts that will hopefully turn into conversations between you and your partner, to help you both decide if you are ready to take your relationship to the next step. Because it’s a big one! https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1686871141910-9I8CMJGGSCY35MPC7M54/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4759637.jpg Blog - 17 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Get Married. - It is important to reflect on our own past and how that impacts us today. As a couples therapist who often works with people overcoming the attachment wounds that they acquired from chaotic childhood homes, I work with people to build on their awareness about what they are bringing into the relationship. We all bring baggage to relationships, how can we not? Some of the baggage that we bring into the marriage is often a repeat of the relationship we had and saw as children. As an Emotionally Focused Therapist, I am a big fan of the attachment theory and I believe that people find their partners to subconsciously repair the hurt that was done to them in childhood. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - 17 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Get Married. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/seven-tips-to-healthier-conflict-with-your-partner monthly 0.5 2023-06-23 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1682987516007-3PRTGD4NMYYJ7PVZ77BM/pexels-timur-weber-8560657.jpg Blog - 7 Strategies For Healthier Conflict With Your Partner. - Two. Working with a trauma-informed couples therapist. Going back the example: Fighting about the dishes represent, but really its about an uneven share of housework, power struggles between your gender roles and expectations, or resurfacing childhood wounds where you felt like everything is on your plate because you were a parentified adult- is such a common issue in my work as a couples therapist serving people in the greater Phoenix Metro Area. Rarely it is about the thing you are fighting about, and from what I see as a practicing couples therapist who specializes in mix raced partnerships and people who came from chaotic homes, the issues are often related to attachment wounds and people who are trauma responding. Working with someone who is trained in couples therapy techniques like emotional focused therapy can help you really address what is going on, down to the root issues. As a Latina therapist, I am passionate in helping couples go to where the issues are really coming from, not giving you some communication skills as a Band Aid attempt to fix stuff that really runs deep. Those are the examples that I choose to share because they are the examples that come up the most in my therapy practice. I often work with couples where both or at least one partner came from a chaotic childhood home. As a trauma-informed therapist, I understand how trauma can show up in sneaky ways. Trauma can affect everything from how we handle finances, resolve conflict, and have sexually fulfilling relationships. All of which can be hot topic issues for couples. This is why working with a couples therapist who is trauma-informed is so essential. Trauma can impact our vision as to what is really going on in our relationship. This is why couples often fail to resolve their issues on their own. A skilled couples therapist can really help you and your partner solve issues and prevent them too. Prevention of conflict is the hallmark of a successful relationship. It is important to make sure that your couples therapist is also trauma informed, otherwise you are only putting Band-Aids are deeper wounds that need more attention and specialized care. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1684966377976-TPVDNF0RJNVWT0NO6DZ1/pexels-alberto-ram%C3%ADrez-sobrino-6755984.jpg Blog - 7 Strategies For Healthier Conflict With Your Partner. Here are 7 proven strategies for helping you navigate conflict with your partner. One. Getting clear about what is actually bothering you. Two. Working with a trauma-informed couples therapist. Three. Remembering that you and your partner are a team. Four. Thinking about a positive moment with your partner. Five. Using a “Soft start-up” can help you prevent conflict with your partner. Six. Calling a time out when the conversation is going nowhere or things get too heated. Seven. Stopping to ask yourself: “What is the story that I am telling myself at this moment.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - 7 Strategies For Healthier Conflict With Your Partner. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work using EMDR Therapy with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1680824473741-G9MO809DPQ4RZI0L1MKN/pexels-cottonbro-studio-3692759.jpg Blog - 7 Strategies For Healthier Conflict With Your Partner. - We can’t work on issues that we are not aware of, this is why going to couples therapy is so important. Couples therapy can help you address lots of things! Emotional injuries, trust issues, and affairs Money In-laws Sex and intimacy issues Communication issues Attachment wounds Childhood Wounds that impact your relationship Gender Roles and Race or Culture as a factor (My specialty!) Parenting struggles Perinatal mental health mood and related issues (Another area I love!) Click here to learn more about how couples therapy can help. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/fd0cfe5d-4ede-4399-b766-4b3fbb05e8cb/pexels-timur-weber-8560657.jpg Blog - 7 Strategies For Healthier Conflict With Your Partner. - Why do you keep having the same argument with your partner? You are not alone. Nearly every couple I have ever worked with in couples therapy has a mix of solvable and unsolvable problems. Something that comes to a shocker for most couples that I work with. No couples therapy cannot help you solve all the problems. Sometimes there are no solutions. Let me further explain before you spiral into a deep anxiety tornado about your relationships. According to Gottman Research, experts in couples therapy and a therapist style that I use often to help couples make the changes they need in their relationships, only 31% of problems within a relationship are actually solvable. That's why, figuring out if this is a solvable problem, or is this where acceptance is the key. Acceptance of your partner's “otherness” is foundational for a solid relationship. And it takes work! https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - 7 Strategies For Healthier Conflict With Your Partner. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1686871224483-RHB5H3SS8JR40ZRM3BMO/pexels-mizuno-k-13334671.jpg Blog - 7 Strategies For Healthier Conflict With Your Partner. - Five. Using a “Soft Start-Up” can help you prevent conflict with your partner. When you have something to bring up with your partner, a soft startup can prevent a simple conversation from escalating into a full argument where shutting down and tears happen. A soft start-up is where you gently bring up the issue. You slow down and ask with a nice tone and friendly vibe. Looking at your partner as being on your side, a team. You make it about your needs. “I am overwhelmed, I need you to watch the kids while I take an hour to myself.” You send appreciation to your partner. “Thank you for being there for me, I really need this, love you very much.” https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/thinking-errors-that-impact-relationships-how-fight-less monthly 0.5 2023-07-06 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1670795573527-XYKFZ6U6QRS7JEOXY5X0/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4308049.jpg Blog - Thinking Errors That Get in the Way of Healthy Relationships. - Thinking errors that gets in the way of healthy relationships #1: All-or-nothing thinking This is where people are very polarized in their views about themselves, others, or the world. It is also called “black-and-white thinking” or “yes or no thinking.” I often tell clients I work with, especially the couples I see in therapy, that things are rarely that simple. There are so many things that live in that gray space or in that maybe or kind of area. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - Thinking Errors That Get in the Way of Healthy Relationships. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - Thinking Errors That Get in the Way of Healthy Relationships. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/889694d0-aff4-4ed0-96ed-953ef141fc33/pexels-rodnae-productions-6670198.jpg Blog - Thinking Errors That Get in the Way of Healthy Relationships. - Thinking errors that gets in the way of healthy relationships #3: Mindreading Try as we might, we cannot read the minds of people. We have to ask for our needs to be met. If you are annoyed about something, there is a good chance that your partner, friend, or family member doesn’t know it. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1682543768535-2WA7NPRGA96QYNE8G484/pexels-liza-summer-6382633.jpg Blog - Thinking Errors That Get in the Way of Healthy Relationships. - Thinking errors that gets in the way of healthy relationships #6: Negative labeling & Self-blaming Being negative and self-blaming often has its roots in a childhood that was not nurturing. Whether a person was abused, lived in a chaotic home, or had a parent who was unavailable (illness, work, or trauma), a child has a higher chance of growing up to feel negative about themselves and the world around them. This happens because kids are egocentric due to how their brain works. This is normal and healthy from a developmental perspective. Kids really are selfish in how their brains work and as they get older they start to realize the world does not revolve around them. So when a person goes through a lot as a child, like a divorce, they can easily feel like they are at fault. Which can them become a theme in their life, feeling like they are at fault for things that had little to do with them. Therapy can help, especially deeper, somatic therapies, like EMDR therapy, Internal Family Systems, and Somatic experiencing because these therapies address deep trauma and inner child wounds. Memories are encoded deep within us, and trauma gets stored in our bodies, therefore holistic approaches can be more effective in treating these deeper wounds. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1684966377976-TPVDNF0RJNVWT0NO6DZ1/pexels-alberto-ram%C3%ADrez-sobrino-6755984.jpg Blog - Thinking Errors That Get in the Way of Healthy Relationships. I hope you found the thinking errors above to be useful in helping you navigate conflict within your partnership. Conflict happens, I tell my couples that are in therapy with me this all the time. The difference is how we navigate that conflict. This is what sets healthier relationships apart from the ones that are on the verge of failure. It is tough work and I think that the fact that you are reading this article shows just how invested you are in having healthier conflict. Whether you are taking a preventative approach or you are working through the messiness of a relationship that needs some serious repair, therapy can help. Please reach out and I would love to consult with you to see if I can help or point you in the right direction. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/what-to-talk-about-in-your-next-therapy-session monthly 0.5 2023-10-25 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1680040079813-ROES29O94NIR6J71MN73/pexels-keira-burton-6624472.jpg Blog - 31 Things to Bring up at Your Next Therapy Session. Other ideas and issues to bring up at your next therapy session. Your top 3 complaints in life that you are always venting about to your friends (a personal favorite, we learn so much from our go to complaints!) Gaining psychoeducation on skills to improve your understanding of mental health (consider bringing in things you read in a self help book) Unpacking and processing what the COVID-19 Pandemic was like for you Learning how to live a great life with neurodiversity (ADHD coaching and support can be a game changer!) Exploring how to live a less stressful life and learning how to rest Exploring and healing your relationship with money Your relationship with food and diet culture Learning how to create more joy and happiness in your life Discussing and treating specific issues like anxiety, depression, bipolar Discussing transitions in life: leaving home, becoming a parent, having a loss https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - 31 Things to Bring up at Your Next Therapy Session. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/e5782bf4-15cb-44a9-9810-bc30a2b1eba7/pexels-matilda-wormwood-4099325.jpg Blog - 31 Things to Bring up at Your Next Therapy Session. - Important things to remember about therapy: You will not have major breakthroughs at every session. Therapy does not have to be a weekly thing. Therapy is not just a place to vent. Things often get worse before they get better. Your therapist will challenge you to look differently or deeper at things. Your connection with your therapist is the biggest predictor of successful treatment. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1678901284788-5RPR9YSR8VSJF0A1D8ZE/pexels-yan-krukov-8837188.jpg Blog - 31 Things to Bring up at Your Next Therapy Session. - Your connection with your therapist is the biggest predictor of successful treatment. This is proven by science. You will have better outcomes with therapy if you feel well-connected to your therapist. Feelings safe, understood, and like your therapist actually cares, are crucial to having a healthy therapy experience. This is called having good rapport with your therapist and strong theraputic alliance. You and your therapist are a team addressing the issues that you are struggling with. You could go to the most qualified therapist with all the certificates and titles after their name but if you don’t like them and have an off feeling in your gut, it won’t work. Trust me. Time and time again people say they like me as their therapist not because of my extensive training in trauma and couples (though I am sure that helps) but because they can relate to me and feel like I am a real human (which I am). So set up those free consultations and go with whoever feels like the “right fit” in addition to specializing in what you need help with. Therapy is probably the weirdest experience I have ever personally experienced. Especially my background as a Latina where we did not talk about mental health let alone going to a therapist. Connecting with the right therapist helps you feel safe. Therapy works, you just have to trust the process. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/fdfbf9d3-4083-40d8-abed-2de35abdf99e/pexels-ekaterina-bolovtsova-4049786.jpg Blog - 31 Things to Bring up at Your Next Therapy Session. - Need Ideas for what to bring up in your next therapy session? I’ve got you. Yay, you are in therapy! You finally are able to go, you have the means, the time, and you are ready. Therapy is hard sometimes and it takes great courage to unpack all the things in order to move towards a more healed version of yourself. Sometimes therapy can be awkward and it can feel like we have no idea what to talk about or how to make the most of the therapy experience. That is why I created this list! https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1680204534703-5TS8SYHN5LKVHTKBVZ50/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4670724.jpg Blog - 31 Things to Bring up at Your Next Therapy Session. Relationships issues to bring up at your next therapy session. Exploring boundaries and how to have better ones and what gets in the way Discussing your dating life to learn how to be a better partner and get a better partner Your most recent relationship struggle: romantic, family, or platonic Exploring how power dynamics impact your relationships Pre-marital counseling to prevent issues before they even happen Learning how to not care so much about what other people think Exploring how hard it is to make friendships as an adult https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - 31 Things to Bring up at Your Next Therapy Session. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/what-makes-successful-couples-therapy monthly 0.5 2023-05-25 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/2a62612c-adbd-4a6a-9d93-9369bac60847/pexels-saulo-leite-7695508.jpg Blog - What Makes Successful Couples Therapy? - We all deserve to be in loving and thriving relationships, where we feel supported and understood. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - What Makes Successful Couples Therapy? - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/a593d092-7d9a-46d1-bd91-462ce386433f/pexels-matilda-wormwood-4099325.jpg Blog - What Makes Successful Couples Therapy? Find a couples therapist who is trained in couples therapy. Not all therapists are trained to offer couples therapy. A good couples therapist is someone who has done additional advanced training outside of their general education in counseling school to provide couples therapy. There are evidence-based couples therapies, like the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy, that are both proven by science to help couples succeed in addressing issues and healing their relationship. There are other styles of couples therapy, so please do your research and find a therapist who has done additional training and supervision to be good at providing couples counseling. A pro tip is to look at a therapist directory profile or website and if they say they can help with a long list of things, odds are they are not very good at all those things. You are probably better off finding a therapist who can help with your specific issues. The only time to see a generalist is if you are struggling with generalist issues. Couples therapy is not a generalist issue and you are better off working with a therapist who specializes in couples therapy. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/fd0cfe5d-4ede-4399-b766-4b3fbb05e8cb/pexels-timur-weber-8560657.jpg Blog - What Makes Successful Couples Therapy? Bad couples therapy looks like this: Only one person speaking or both partners speaking over one another constantly Only talking about the “crisis of the week” or COWs Little to no reflection on the “bigger issues” Not broadening the work in couples therapy to relationships in general Not owning and taking responsibility for mistakes and hurtful moments https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1677795873445-MFNDU0F0DKY51VFSV6BW/pexels-pavel-danilyuk-8552891.jpg Blog - What Makes Successful Couples Therapy? Good couples therapy looks like this: Having space for both you and your partner to talk Exploring love languages Healing relationship injuries and rebuilding trust Exploring attachment styles Exploring family of origin and how this impacts you now Exploring dysfunctional communication patterns Getting to the root of the issue Learning a new way to be in a relationship Future planning and prevention of couples therapy work https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - What Makes Successful Couples Therapy? - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/15-lifestyle-changes-you-can-start-now-to-reduce-anxiety monthly 0.5 2023-05-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1668901184814-J70M7ART07N606KICHC0/pexels-cottonbro-studio-5791657.jpg Blog - 15 Lifestyle Changes You Can Start Now to Reduce Anxiety - 4. Surround yourself with people who are good for you to reduce anxiety. Making friends is hard, and making good friends can feel impossible. You are not alone, loneliness is something that has been impacting people more and more, especially after the pandemic. In my therapy practice, this is a common struggle for my clients. Surrounding yourself with healthy people will help your mind and body to relax. Surround yourself with people who bring out your best side, people who have a life you are working towards, a group where you feel like you belong. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1678901284788-5RPR9YSR8VSJF0A1D8ZE/pexels-yan-krukov-8837188.jpg Blog - 15 Lifestyle Changes You Can Start Now to Reduce Anxiety - 11. Establish a daily gratitude practice to reduce anxiety. Establishing a daily practice of gratitude can rewire your brain to have more balance. Our brains naturally go looking for negatives because it is part of our biology. This is an adaptive that is meant to keep us safe. But our brains can get stuck in rumination and not be able to see thoughts as just thoughts. Instead, gratitude can help us improve our ability to err on the side of positive thinking because it rewires the neural network. This is why I am so passionate about offering EMDR as a therapy for the clients that I work with. As an EMDR therapist practicing online in San Diego and surround areas and all over California plus in Phoenix and all over Arizona, I am not kidding you when I tell you that EMDR therapy is like magic. EMDR therapy can help your brain rewire deep neural pathways. Lots of our struggles can be tied to shame, fear, and worry about not being loved, safe, or competent. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/2a62612c-adbd-4a6a-9d93-9369bac60847/pexels-saulo-leite-7695508.jpg Blog - 15 Lifestyle Changes You Can Start Now to Reduce Anxiety - 14. Allow life to unfold to reduce anxiety. This is piggybacking off of my last example. A major lifestyle change that can help with reducing anxiety, is to release control over things that we have very little to no control over. Instead, a mindset that can help with overcoming anxiety, is to allow life to naturally unfold. If your goal is to be well-traveled or to have more solid relationships, then the efforts of today can help you get to that future version of yourself. But stressing about why that future you are not here already will only make your anxiety worse. And sometimes life pivots and that is the beauty of it. I did not know I wanted to be a couples and trauma therapist, I didn’t even know I wanted to be a therapist at all. I allowed my life to unfold. From my early days as a swim teacher to taking random classes at college. It was all the process. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1678320004004-2PQGHJD18LNNQMFHB5NG/pexels-andrea-piacquadio-3807729.jpg Blog - 15 Lifestyle Changes You Can Start Now to Reduce Anxiety - 1. Say no more often to reduce anxiety. From someone who deep down sometimes feels like saying no is a bad word, saying no is life-changing. It is hard in the beginning, but I promise you that it will get easier. Anxiety is stressed about the future. Now, I am not saying to say no because something makes you anxious just thinking about it, but what I am saying is to say no so that you have more space for your priorities. Fun fact, did you know that work priority is actually in its truest form means: one thing that is important? That’s right, one thing. Yet it is commonplace in our culture to have a list of priorities. Heck, even my daily to-do list pad on my desk has space for five priorities. Like what? Instead, we can practice one priority. For the hour, day, week, or season in your life. Saying no frees up space and can really help reduce anxiety. Most people say that family is their priority but how often do we put work first? We will plan our lives around work and family gets the leftover version of us. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1682024326426-EFGG6LHXJACHHMOZFKSI/pexels-radomir-jordanovic-1644888.jpg Blog - 15 Lifestyle Changes You Can Start Now to Reduce Anxiety Hopefully, some of the points I mentioned on this post can help you in exploring what lifestyle changes you need to make in order to feel less anxiety. I work with recovering people-peoplers who came from chaotic homes, and those wanting to further unpack how this all relates to chaotic childhood homes. I work with people individually and in couples' work, helping people create a life where they can thrive all over the San Diego area and Phoenix area as I am dually licensed in Arizona and California. It isn’t easy work and I would be honored to walk with you. Reach out and we can chat more! https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - 15 Lifestyle Changes You Can Start Now to Reduce Anxiety - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - 15 Lifestyle Changes You Can Start Now to Reduce Anxiety - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/how-to-talk-about-emotional-labor-with-your-partner monthly 0.5 2023-05-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1680040079813-ROES29O94NIR6J71MN73/pexels-keira-burton-6624472.jpg Blog - How to Talk About Emotional Labor with Your Partner - It is important to talk about gender roles and expectations Most people do not have one partner who is a stay-at-home parent. Most of the couples I work with have both partners in working, yet one partner, usually the female-identified partner is the one caring for most of the emotional labor load, home caring, and children raising. It is like having two full-time jobs. No wonder the woman in the relationship is more likely to reach out for couples therapy! I often work with interracial couples and we have difficult but necessary conversations about race and culture. This is a specialty area of mine as I have lived experience as a Latina in an interracial partnership with an Asian person. Training plus lived empierce helps me connect with couples in a way that some therapist just can’t. Click here to read more about how I can help with therapy for interracial partnerships in San Diego area and Phoenix metro area (all California and Arizona, online). Issues around emotional labor and gender roles is something that I also see in the queer partnerships. Most of us have internalized gender roles that are impacting the quality of our relationships, how can we not growing up in our culture that conditions us from such an early age? That is why it is worth a conversation with your partner, so you both can learn and grow a deeper love with one another. I often challenge my couples to talk about hard things like gender roles, cultural roles, and societal roles. This is often uncomfortable at first, but time and time again it is a much appreciated conversation that leads to real change for the couples that I work with. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - How to Talk About Emotional Labor with Your Partner - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/f32f42f7-fc39-4050-b9ea-106a8c427470/pexels-ba-tik-3754276.jpg Blog - How to Talk About Emotional Labor with Your Partner - Tips for talking about emotional labor with your partner Remember that your partner is probably not doing it to be mean Say how it bothers you and ask for them to be mindful of watching the home too Don’t generalize and call them out for character flaws, like that they are lazy Be clear about how important this is for you to feel supported as a team Let them know you love them and want to figure this out with them Be open to feedback (it might look like defensiveness) Consider reaching out to a couples therapist to work through this with a professional Why? To prevent it from becoming a bigger issue and to help you and your partner be a more successful couple. This is great for preventive couples therapy and pre-marital couples therapy https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1680824473741-G9MO809DPQ4RZI0L1MKN/pexels-cottonbro-studio-3692759.jpg Blog - How to Talk About Emotional Labor with Your Partner Emotional labor is a common topic for lots of couples. But what is emotional labor? In a partnership (domestic but also counts for platonic and work) I usually describe emotional labor as the work it takes, often invisible, to run a home and do life with your partner. I promise you, that you are not alone in this and it can be really nice to unpack this with a couples therapist because talking about emotional labor can send couples into heated arguments, with tears, and shutting down. Going to couples therapy gives you a neutral space to work out issues where a couples therapist can give your support and guidance. Emotional labor can often lead to mood disorders like anxiety and depression. It can also impact the overall satisfaction with the relationship. Being in a marriage or partnership is hard work. Couples therapy can help you and your partner become a stronger team by addressing something like emotional labor. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - How to Talk About Emotional Labor with Your Partner - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1680204534703-5TS8SYHN5LKVHTKBVZ50/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4670724.jpg Blog - How to Talk About Emotional Labor with Your Partner - It is important to talk about neurodivergent relationships and emotional labor Some people are better at tasks that require executive function skills than others, making navigating emotional labor tricky sometimes. This is often the case for couples where one or both are neurodivergent. In my experience working with couples where one or both partners are neurodivergent, we can still work towards addressing emotional labor issues. The key is to be curious, kind, and creative. And most importantly to have accountability. Own that you messed up and own your brain. It is okay AND you and your partner can figure it out together as a team. (I speak from personal experience and clinical experience). Often it is a matter of figuring out what will work for a couple. It is important to not use neurodivergent as a crutch and not to view it this way. It can also help to identify strengths and pick tasks in that way. The important thing is to talk about it and work towards a solution with your partner. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/9e4fe8a5-c4d9-4ca3-89e9-fe537ab934ea/pexels-felipe-balduino-2546959.jpg Blog - How to Talk About Emotional Labor with Your Partner - Emotional labor is also being mindful of “all the steps” in a task Most of the things listed in the emotional labor list above require lots of steps. I could have easily made this list of 100s of checkboxes. Let's take reaching out to congratulate someone in your social circle about a job promotion or buying a home. First, you have to keep up with people to even know these updates in their life. Whether that is checking social media, reaching out with texts or phone calls, or conversing with others and asking how that person has been. Then there is the thinking about how you would socially like to respond to this person. And let's say you would like to send a card or a gift. Then you need to go to the store, pick a card, and mail it. Or say yes to a party and plan how to fit that into your schedule. Then there is the archiving of this information should you need it for a future encounter. If you are the partner that is in charge of this, it can easily become annoying when you feel like your partner just doesn’t put in the effort to keep track of social relationships. Writing their name on the card or going to the event is not enough when compared to all the invisible labor that took place. If this sounds like your relationship, talking about it is a great first step. Remember to highlight how this impacts you and request how you would like the situation addressed. If you find it hard to talk about this with your partner, couples therapy can be a great place to tackle issues of emotional labor. It is one of the things that I often talk with couples about and can really help increase a couple's feelings of trust and connection. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/eleven-ways-to-overcome-imposter-syndrome monthly 0.5 2023-04-26 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/f4847894-cb1a-486d-821c-a2425bc97d67/pexels-pixabay-236215.jpg Blog - 11 Ways to Overcome Imposter Syndrome - Imposter syndrome often has its roots in childhood. Which can then turn into an adult who feels the need to do more, to perform more, to be more. Rest is something that is seen as a waste of time. Rest is seen as something that is a waste of time or something to be earned. This can lead to poor work-life balance and poor mental health. Below I want to share things you can do starting now to help heal your imposter syndrome. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - 11 Ways to Overcome Imposter Syndrome - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1661656018875-5RN73L2ZOE6R1D5S4HX6/pexels-liza-summer-6382634.jpg Blog - 11 Ways to Overcome Imposter Syndrome - Imposter Syndrome is something that affects thousands of people. Imposter syndrome can have huge impacts on your health, both physical and mental. People often report that they struggle with anxiety, depression, and lots of intrusive thoughts. They are worried people will judge them for not being qualified enough, despite being qualified. It is also common for people to report that they have somatic symptoms or body symptoms when they are struggling with imposter syndrome. People will report stomach issues, pressure on their chest and shoulders, poor appetite, and trouble with sleep. Struggling with imposter syndrome is something that can really impact a person and it is worth seeking out support. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/f9b203c5-1db5-4375-982f-129cd2856c87/pexels-ekaterina-bolovtsova-4050218.jpg Blog - 11 Ways to Overcome Imposter Syndrome - Get to know your triggers Our triggers are great at giving us information. We might be upset with ourselves, but projecting onto others. We might not be putting ourselves first and being mindful of our boundaries. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - 11 Ways to Overcome Imposter Syndrome - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/how-to-live-aligned-more-aligned-with-your-values monthly 0.5 2023-04-24 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1668901184814-J70M7ART07N606KICHC0/pexels-cottonbro-studio-5791657.jpg Blog - How to Live a Life More Aligned With Your Values. - So where do our values come from? Society & Culture Upbringing Learning new things These are a few places where we get our values from. Sometimes the process of figuring out your values is unlearning and relearning things or even going back to things that were once important to you. It is important to be compassionate with yourself as you go on your values exploration. It can be a wild ride! https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/9e4fe8a5-c4d9-4ca3-89e9-fe537ab934ea/pexels-felipe-balduino-2546959.jpg Blog - How to Live a Life More Aligned With Your Values. How do you even identify your values? There are a lot of ways to go about identifying your values. There are great books and workbooks out there that you could read, you could pick up a practice of reflective journaling, you could work with a therapist to gain more self awareness about your triggers, values, and areas for growth. A good way to identify values is to pay attention to your body. Our bodies are always letting us know things, such as when to eat, drink, sleep, what we like and don’t like, who’s company we enjoy or dread, and what feeds into our happiness and what depletes it. In a world that is so disconnected, it can be hard to be connected with our bodies. Often at the first sight of discomfort, we quickly go towards a numbing behavior, like scrolling on social media, binge watching a show, or turning towards drugs and alcohol. Getting comfortable with being uncomfortable can really guide us towards knowing what our values are. Therapy can help and so can practice like meditation and yoga. Can your values change? Yes, your values can change overtime. It is pretty common for people to pivot and grow into new (hopefully more aware and healed) versions of themselves. Life changes that can contribute to changes in values can be, moving to a new city, changing careers, ending or starting a new relationship, becoming a parent, or hitting milestone age. By no means is this an exhaustive list, but I hope I painted the picture, that values really change all the time. I often tell clients that I work with that they are probably different from who they were 10 years ago, 5 years ago, or a year ago. AND technically even yesterday. Because we are constantly living and growing. I often work with couples and this is a common early relationship pressure point. Trying to create one relationship that works with two very different people. Compromise is something that can help. But even more useful is working with a couples therapist who can help you identify how your upbringing, attachment, and way of seeing the world might be rubbing up on each other's beliefs and values. It is tough work but it can be done! https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - How to Live a Life More Aligned With Your Values. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/7d65ffc0-cde7-43d8-9d68-7b89fd0a5e64/pexels-rodnae-productions-5616267.jpg Blog - How to Live a Life More Aligned With Your Values. - Monday Dread, not again. Your alarm goes off and you feel that sense of dread start to overcome you. You are not looking forward to the day ahead. You ask yourself “How did I end up like this and is this really all there is?” You aren’t alone, lots of people dread Mondays, or dread starting yet another day or week. It is common for people to struggle with these thoughts and feelings. So how do you stop that Monday Dread? One way can be living a life aligned with your values. When we live life aligned with our values we find that that pressure is lifted. All of sudden you are able to be calmer, happier, and feel like you finally have it together (at least somewhat more!) As a therapist practicing in California and Arizona, this is something that I speak with clients about all the time. The answer isn’t always quitting your job or dropping that friend. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1680040079813-ROES29O94NIR6J71MN73/pexels-keira-burton-6624472.jpg Blog - How to Live a Life More Aligned With Your Values. - What does a life that is aligned with your values look like? Instead a life aligned with values looks like one where you feel happy, connected, and feel like you have an overall calmness and peace in your life. A life that is aligned in your values will have more “Yes, 100% I want to do that” moments and less dread and “why am I even doing this” moments. Let's walk down a visual exercise together, to help you get in touch with a life where you are able to live aligned with your values. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - How to Live a Life More Aligned With Your Values. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/journal-prompts-for-healing-inner-child monthly 0.5 2023-04-24 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ccba0c56-48d6-45aa-9131-f54aa1e4c7da/pexels-mart-production-7606074.jpg Blog - Journal Prompts for Healing Inner Child. - Journal prompts that can help you heal a wounded inner child. Here are some journal prompts that can help you heal a wounded inner child. Feel free to switch them around and make them you own. If you feel inspired, go with it. Some people like to have a photo of themselves when they were young to help the creative juices flow. There is no right or wrong way to journal. Do what feels good. And I would highly encourage you to unpack these journal entries with someone you care about, a trusted friend, partner, or a therapist. Please reach out to a therapist if you notice you are touching on something that you need support in unpacking and healing. It is super common to feel overwhelmed, anxious, and unsure when you start to unpack deeper wounds. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - Journal Prompts for Healing Inner Child. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/bfa13cf8-b8e0-4f36-8c3a-4e8bf45c8c38/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4308049.jpg Blog - Journal Prompts for Healing Inner Child. - Traumas that are not always so obvious And can impact how you think and feel, interact with others, and go on about living life. Parents struggling with a illness (mental or physical) Busy and distant parents Constant moves Having an untreated neurodivergent brain and not getting supports Growing up poor Growing up around substance abuse Being of an a marginalized background and not feeling a sense of community https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/9e4fe8a5-c4d9-4ca3-89e9-fe537ab934ea/pexels-felipe-balduino-2546959.jpg Blog - Journal Prompts for Healing Inner Child. - How healing inner child (create new neural pathways) can shift how we think: I am weird, no one wants to be my friend……..I am fun, I need to find people who click with me I am not very smart and always failing…. I am always learning and I have come a long way I am lazy and never get anything done…I am human and doing the best I can I love that people are talking more and more about mental health. It is such an important conversation. It is okay to not be okay. Plus I encourage to reach out for support. Therapy can really make a difference in addressing deeper struggles so that you can actually feel calm, confident, and thrive in life. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1662346363539-W40K1QG5TK68JOH8HT6X/pexels-anna-shvets-5953623.jpg Blog - Journal Prompts for Healing Inner Child. - Signs you might have a wounded inner child: You get distracted easily and tend to procrastinate You feel like your own worst enemy when you mess up You struggle to rest and feel like you always have to do more You struggle with feel calm and confident You struggle in your relationships You struggle with feeling good enough and lovable https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - Journal Prompts for Healing Inner Child. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/how-to-take-care-of-yourself-during-a-quarter-life-crisis monthly 0.5 2023-04-11 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/44963557-8ca4-4efd-8bf8-b6bee9c5a98b/pexels-tim-samuel-5838911.jpg Blog - How to Take Care of Yourself During a "Quarter-Life Crisis." - Practice acceptance and identify what you can control. Again, there is so much that we cannot change in life. It is important to accept and direct energy towards what can help. If you are annoyed with current social and political issues, then vote, protest, get involved. If you are frustrated with your work, then talk with your boss, speak with HR, figure out if there is a way to make changes. Stop trying to control other people. Let them be them, accept them for them, and focus your time elsewhere. Misery loves company. Surround yourself with what you deserve. Fill your time connecting with those who are truly good for your mental health and your emotional spirit. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/b7272fdd-9302-42dd-b5e1-b207332cfc36/pexels-hannah-nelson-1094020.jpg Blog - How to Take Care of Yourself During a "Quarter-Life Crisis." - The anxiety spirals, the feelings of what am I doing with my life, yeah I feel you. So what exactly is a “quarter-life crisis.” Do you feel like you have no idea who you are, where you are going, and how to get there? Welcome, my friend to the quarter life crisis. It is basically a midlife crisis but way sooner. Think anywhere between early 20s to late 30s. That tends to be the sweet spot for a quarter life crisis, from what I haven noticed in my private therapy practice. We will go over reasons I think can contribute to a quarterlife crisis, plus self care to help you cope with a quarterlife crisis. I work with people all over San Diego (all of California really) and in Phoenix (all of Arizona- thanks to telehealth) where I hear clients sharing what sounds like a mid life crisis but they are nowhere near being midlife. So what gives? Three reasons I think people people are experiencing “quarter-life crisis.” One. People are asking themselves the tough questions earlier. Two. People aren’t really living their life, they are living out what they were told to do. Three. People are more isolated and cut off socially than they have ever been in human history. Keep reading and I will unpack this a bit more. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1679527351388-CTFRC1WADOKSI4GJIFOQ/pexels-vlada-karpovich-4668523.jpg Blog - How to Take Care of Yourself During a "Quarter-Life Crisis." - Get serious about your self care. Good self care nurtures you. It is not just about taking a bath or getting your favorite latte from your local coffee shop. Good self care feeds into your mental, emotional, and spiritual cup. Ideas for therapist approved self care Walks Setting aside free time where you can do whatever you want Art & Music Connecting with drama free friends Listening to the wind or water https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1678148590460-2OO9HY1GUOT1GW15LOQL/pexels-rodnae-productions-5616267.jpg Blog - How to Take Care of Yourself During a "Quarter-Life Crisis." - Three. People are more isolated and cut off socially than they have ever been in human history. We are social creatures, yet so many of us report being lonely, which can have tremendous impacts on our mental health, physical health, and spiritual health. Many people work very long hours, and at the end of the day have zero energy to engage with other humans. This in turn ends up having a huge impact on our health and happiness. When we constantly live for the future and don’t slow down to realize life is right now, we end up feeling empty and like a machine. We grind away at work and forget to nurture our relationships and build a life. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/296a431e-3cfa-432c-8c03-78655de3b8f6/IMG_3614.jpg Blog - How to Take Care of Yourself During a "Quarter-Life Crisis." - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/how-to-know-when-to-go-to-couples-therapy monthly 0.5 2023-06-15 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1664127642682-I9EH6QL5W5NEH7IQ9ZHT/pexels-mikhail-nilov-6894036.jpg Blog - How to Know When to Go to Couples Therapy? - How to find and choose a couples therapist? (this applies to both California couples and Arizona couples). Finding a therapist, the right therapist, can feel like an endless task. I know from my own experience and also from people who I have worked with as their therapist. Some people find that they have to “try out” a few different therapists. And that is okay! Therapy is a kinda weirdly deep thing and you want to make sure that you connect well with a therapist. Connecting well with the right therapist has been shown to be the number one factor in whether a person will experience improved symptoms. This is why it is so important to do your research, have that free consultation call, and connect with the right therapist. Here are some important things to consider when trying to find a couples therapist in not only San Diego, California but also in Phoenix, Arizona. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - How to Know When to Go to Couples Therapy? - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/3eeeb48a-dd51-4f03-a868-8f2e02392038/pexels-luana-freitas-15817194+%281%29.jpg Blog - How to Know When to Go to Couples Therapy? - A typical couples session with me (after the initial sessions) looks like: A quick 5-10 minute check in: highs and lows, how did managing conflict go? Unpacking an area of concern: this could be the low of the week, a fight, or a memory from a past wound that they would like to unpack. Tying it to a theme in the relationship. I make it a point with my couples to see if this is a theme or a pattern in their dysfunctional communication pattern. I work with couples to not keep things surface level but instead I want us to get deep, identifying that negative interaction. That is what we are targeting in couples therapy. Not the fact that so and so didn’t take out the trash again, but what that meant, the deeper conversation about emotional load and roles in the home. Couples therapy will teach you how to solve problems in a more effective way. Then we work together to relax the anxious and avoidant parts of use ( I often blend in Internal Family Systems here) and work with the couples to ask for their needs to be met in a healthier way of communication. Then we review how that felt, giving positive feedback to our partner. If we have time we might do this again for another issue or we might reflect and process the session. Then we come up with anything that the couple would like to commit to over the next week. This could be putting themselves first and not projecting onto their partner, this can be a date night, or practicing skills on another conflict they have. How Long Does Couples Therapy Last? Couples therapy can last anywhere between a few sessions(for people who come in for “check ups” to a few years. When seeing a couples therapist in San Diego, California or in Phoenix, Arizona, it really depends on the issues and the goals that the couples have. I tend to see most couples for about a year. This is because I often work with deeper struggles, tapping into childhood wounds, and addressing struggles of race, culture, and gender. My couples and individual clients often unpack some pretty tough things and it really is quite an honor to support them in doing so. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - How to Know When to Go to Couples Therapy? - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/dfe4d98b-6363-4699-9bcc-72e09ae72fb9/pexels-pnw-production-8998179.jpg Blog - How to Know When to Go to Couples Therapy? - You are probably here because you have been thinking about going to couples therapy, but you have spiraled into all the thoughts and questions. I’ve got you. Keep reading. And feel free to reach out! I would love to chat and point you in the right direction. It can be overwhelming when you are not sure when to reach out for support in couples counseling. Maybe you keep wondering to yourself things are that bad, we don’t really need couples therapy or maybe you have been considering couples counseling for a long time but are just not sure about how to get started or what to expect? Maybe you are aware of some deeper attachment wounds and you want to take your healing to the next level or address things before you get more serious. But you thought couples therapy is only for those couples who are like really bad at solving their issues, not necessarily true. There lots of reasons why people go to couples therapy. Keep on reading, as a couples therapist who has served hundreds of couples in both the San Diego greater area and the Phoenix greater area, I will share with you the most common reasons people seek out couples therapy, how to find and choose a couples therapist, and what to expect in a couples therapy session. This is a long article, but I hope you find answers. Hopefully this will take out some of the mystery and overwhelmed that can come from deciding if couples therapy is for you and seeking out a couples therapist. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/5bcfc2fb-7647-4e7b-b8d1-c55a85e77aab/pexels-andres-ayrton-6578808.jpg Blog - How to Know When to Go to Couples Therapy? - It not always tears, sometimes we laugh in therapy. Going to couples therapy can feel scary, overwhelming, and almost like you are doing a bad thing. But going to therapy can help, going to therapy can help you create the life and relationship that you want. Plus it not always that painful, some session can feel lighter and there is often plenty of humor and joy. Therapy is not always tears and painful conversations. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/how-to-talk-about-sex-with-your-partner monthly 0.5 2023-04-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1678226168270-PPYQ6B2J1EIHSO2S3D95/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4746582.jpg Blog - How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex. - Trouble with sex is a common reason people seek out couples therapy. Time and time again people will share with me in their intake therapy session that they are struggling with sex. It is often brought up in a shy way and then they often turn to their partner worried they offered. Or sometimes they flat out blame their partner and it becomes a whole thing, a big argument in their first therapy session with me. Truthfully, I love it though, because I am here to support these couples in changing this dysfunctional pattern. Both feeling shy and getting argumentative are technically dysfunctional ways of communicating needs to our partners, and therapy can help. It then becomes our work together in couples therapy to unpack issues and learn how to talk about these issues in a way where both partners feel heard, respected, and loved. This takes work and this is why I am so passionate about serving couples in the San Diego area and the Phoenix area. As a couples therapist, I often work with people where one of the pain points for seeking out therapy in the first place is because of troubles in the bedroom department. Sex, parenting struggles, finances, religion, politics, and gender roles tend to be the most common things that people will seek out couples therapy for, and they all have something in common. Communication. But how do you even talk about sex? Like what do you say? When? Keep reading, I’ve got you covered. I want to share tried and true strategies for being able to have this very important talk with your partner. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1662404563368-W05NF6UQ83EZZ4V7TC1H/pexels-cottonbro-3692759.jpg Blog - How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex. - Find support. Therapy can help you and your partner feel confident talk about sex and help you improve your sex life. Talking about sex can feel incredibly nerve wracking, but it so important to create a space with your partner where you feel like you are able to talk about sex and intimacy. Healthy, secure, and sustainable relationships make space for talking about sex and intimacy. If you are not sure where to start, feel free to reach out to a trusted therapist. You don’t have to do this alone! https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/f32f42f7-fc39-4050-b9ea-106a8c427470/pexels-ba-tik-3754276.jpg Blog - How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex. - Get clear about your messages about sex and intimacy. This means unpacking your own ideas and messages around sex AND then talking about this with your partner. Questions to ask yourself: What is sex to me? What is intimacy for me? What turns me on? What turns me off? How often would I like sex? What would be some back up activities if sex isn’t on the table (I talk more about this in a bit.) How is my emotional connection with my partner? Does this impact my feelings about sex? Questions to ask one another: What is your favorite things to do in bed? What are things that are a hard no in bed? Are there things that you might want to do one day? What do you need from me emotionally to increase desire? How can I be there for you when I am not in the mood for sex? This is all about building a secure relationship with your partner. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/how-to-talk-about-boundaries-with-out-your-partner-getting-defensive monthly 0.5 2023-06-15 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/f32f42f7-fc39-4050-b9ea-106a8c427470/pexels-ba-tik-3754276.jpg Blog - How to Talk About Boundaries With Out Your Partner Getting Defensive. - The power of “I statement.” A great tool in having healthier communication with your partner. “I statements” is one of my favorite things to teach to couples. An “I statement” shifts energy to owning that you are the one experiencing the feeling and that you are the one reaching out to your partner to fix the issue at hand. When we speak we often blame each other suing “you statements.” Lots of people are quick to blame their partner. “You forgot, you always forget.” A statement that starts with “you” is bound to become an argument where you raise your voice, someone cries, and someone shuts down. “You statements” stir up emotions in other people causing defensiveness to rise. Now you are left holding a grudge for days. A good “I statement” can help you avoid this blaming trap that often sends couples into arguments where they are both struggling to get the other person to see their point. There are three truths, theirs, yours, and what really happened. Work as a team with your partner, not against them. Not all “I statements” are created equal. Just because you say “I” doesn’t make it a good “I statement.” “I” needs to be followed by a feeling word and then a reason. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/dfe4d98b-6363-4699-9bcc-72e09ae72fb9/pexels-pnw-production-8998179.jpg Blog - How to Talk About Boundaries With Out Your Partner Getting Defensive. - Top common areas couples need to improve boundaries conversations in: Personal space and physical items Household tasks Raising children Emotional load and fairness in managing life In-laws Cleanliness Friendship What is considered cheating Finances https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - How to Talk About Boundaries With Out Your Partner Getting Defensive. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - How to Talk About Boundaries With Out Your Partner Getting Defensive. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/abdcf2d4-531e-4354-afb4-f38c75615221/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4670724.jpg Blog - How to Talk About Boundaries With Out Your Partner Getting Defensive. - What is a healthy boundary? A healthy boundary is where our own limits are respected. Boundaries are so important for healthy loving relationships. Couples often struggle with communicating their boundaries with their partner without either one of them becoming defensive. Think about the last time you tried to have a conversation, where you said what was not okay with your partner. Did it turn into a full-blown argument? You are not alone. This is super common and one of the reasons why people seek out couples therapy. A trained expert can help you navigate conflict so that you and your partner feel like you are on the same page again. Communicating boundaries well to your partner looks like: Calmness Clarity Curiosity Feeling connected If that doesn’t sound like your relationship, keep reading! I will go over how to have a conversation on boundaries with out you or your partner getting defensive. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/7-hard-truths-growing-up-as-the-child-of-an-immigrant monthly 0.5 2023-03-28 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1661909717214-08SZP6W9DZ6IRSP8P6N5/pexels-liza-summer-6382659.jpg Blog - 7 Hard Truths About Growing Up As The Child of an Immigrant. Growing up as the child of an immigrant can greatly shape a person: in the way that they view others, the world, and themselves. This can show up in your work life, romantic relationships, and pretty much all areas. As a therapist who is the daughter of a Mexican immigrant, I have lived and experienced the realities that come from being the child of an immigrant. I cannot speak for everyone's experience but I know a lot of things that I plan to share in this post will resonate with others. I have had many conversations with therapy clients where they too have had similar struggles, sharing how nice it is to connect with a BIPOC therapist. It is so important that you feel safe and comfortable with your therapist. There is no pressure to stick it out with a therapist when it feels like they don’t get it. Even in my own work with clients, we don’t always click, and that is okay. Instead, I point them in a different direction with trusted colleagues, so that they can find a therapist that is the right fit. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - 7 Hard Truths About Growing Up As The Child of an Immigrant. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1670795573527-XYKFZ6U6QRS7JEOXY5X0/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4308049.jpg Blog - 7 Hard Truths About Growing Up As The Child of an Immigrant. - 5. As an adult you have to learn how to regulate your emotions So if your parent struggled to regulate their own feelings, it only makes sense why the child of an immigrant would struggle to regulate their own feelings too. It can come as a shocker for adult children of emotionally immature parents when they learn that other people were actually taught how to take care of their feelings. I know for myself this was mind-blowing. This can really impact your most precious relationship, like with your partner, friends, and your children. A specialty therapy area of mine is working with folks who come from different backgrounds (race, class, culture, immigration history), really working on unpacking how their family of origin continues to impact them. Often this shows up in how we communicate with our partners. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/a0e3926a-10c9-49e6-b05f-8163d69b77ce/pexels-min-an-792994.jpg Blog - 7 Hard Truths About Growing Up As The Child of an Immigrant. - 3. You will experience a lot of first and will often feel behind. You are not stupid. The amount of “firsts” that you will experience as the child of an immigrant will be countless. To this day I am still experiencing firsts. And parts of me get angry, and parts of me are working on being more compassionate. It is a journey when you are healing as the child of an immigrant. Something that I encourage my clients is to have loving kindness for themselves as they heal. It really is a lifelong journey. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - 7 Hard Truths About Growing Up As The Child of an Immigrant. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/e5782bf4-15cb-44a9-9810-bc30a2b1eba7/pexels-matilda-wormwood-4099325.jpg Blog - 7 Hard Truths About Growing Up As The Child of an Immigrant. - 7. As an adult you are left to process lots of childhood stuff I can’t quit remembering what training I heard this but it has been so helpful when thinking about trauma. That people are more like cloves of garlic, not onions. Garlic has lots of cloves and those cloves have lots of layers. I like how it is more complex because that is exactly how childhood trauma can feel. When I work with clients to treat their complex childhood trauma, it is often layers and layers. It is something that takes a skilled and compassionate therapist to be able to walk with you and unpack, reorganize, and heal from growing up in a chaotic childhood home. This is very much the case for children of immigrants, but also for others who grew up in military homes, parents who struggled with chronic illness, and lots of other situations. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/7-therapist-approved-date-night-ideas monthly 0.5 2023-04-20 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/7f4ca19f-428c-4dc1-981a-0c188e43f125/pexels-keira-burton-6624472.jpg Blog - 7 Therapist Approved Date Night Ideas. - 1. A long walk is a great date night idea. Taking a stroll with your partner can be incredibly therapeutic. If you have dogs to walk, fantastic. Although only if your dogs aren’t too distracting for the walks. This is why I recommend that children not be present on this date walk, unless you feel like it doesn’t take away from you and your partner being able to connect. The idea is to have a nice long walk where there are moments where just you and your partner connecting. As an EMDR therapist, I love to recommend walking, since it is a form of bilateral stimulation. Walking can be a great place to work out issues because walking will help you stay calm enough to talk about topics that can be hard to talk about. No pressure to explore deep traumas out on the walks! Start with lighter frustrations. And talk about what is going well in your relationship. People love to know what they are doing well at. Appreciation is so important for a strong relationship. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/5bcfc2fb-7647-4e7b-b8d1-c55a85e77aab/pexels-andres-ayrton-6578808.jpg Blog - 7 Therapist Approved Date Night Ideas. - 3. Playing together is a great date night idea. This can be video games, board games, fort building, face painting, anything goes! This is one of my favorite date nights to not only recommend but that I personally really like. Lately, I have been super into Mario Kart (new races, yesss! Ps. who else is excited about the movie?!). But there is something to be said about looking at your partner and feeling like your face is hurting from all the smiling and laughing you experiencing. There is something about being joyful, almost kidlike with your partner that increases our satisfaction with the relationship. Being playful can be such a shock-absorbing cushion for when future conflict happens. If you want this feeling back in your life, therapy can help. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - 7 Therapist Approved Date Night Ideas. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/c391ada8-4cc2-46e1-801e-79f44e2f2322/pexels-cottonbro-3692759.jpg Blog - 7 Therapist Approved Date Night Ideas. - What makes a date night a good date night? A good date night is one where you both are able to connect and buffer your relationship against future conflicts. This means that you are able to have more positive points in the jar to use when the negative stuff happens. Even the healthiest of relationships have conflict. A healthy relationship will have its ups and downs; to make the downs more bearable, it is important to have many positive experiences. Date nights are so crucial for making and maintaining healthy relationships with our partners. It is an opportunity to catch up, address issues, and further deepen our bonds. But not all date nights are created equal. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - 7 Therapist Approved Date Night Ideas. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/therapy-for-embodiment-how-to-feel-more-connected-to-your-body monthly 0.5 2023-06-15 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/9afe6da8-adef-4242-8bf6-cbcbb6ff430c/IMG_5354.jpg Blog - Therapy For Embodiment: How to Feel More Connected to Your Body. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough when we are dealing with generational trauma. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/dfe4d98b-6363-4699-9bcc-72e09ae72fb9/pexels-pnw-production-8998179.jpg Blog - Therapy For Embodiment: How to Feel More Connected to Your Body. - Re-wiring your “Danger-Danger” System With Trauma Informed Therapy in San Diego and Phoenix (anywhere in CA and AZ) Think about all the times when you have felt a rush through your body, you likely were feeling your body's “danger-danger” system getting activated. This is so important for our survival, however, if that path in our minds becomes our baseline, then we might default to it constantly. This can make it hard to regulate our feelings, make meaningful connections, and have a life where we feel truly present. This is why therapy that also work with the somatic symptoms (body stuff) is so important. There even more specilalized emobdiment type therapist out there. SO important to do your research and speak with a therapist to see which is right for you. Working with a therapist with knowledge of trauma and the body is so important for healing. In addition, there are lots of things you can do to support healing as your journey with reconnecting with your body. Below are my top go-to activities that help increase the mind-body connection which is so important have gone through trauma and big life stressors. Pain is something we all feel in life and I hope these activities are useful in your journey of healing and continued awareness. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1661121648317-ALYP9ZP7RNCTV90UN7R2/pexels-ekaterina-bolovtsova-4050218.jpg Blog - Therapy For Embodiment: How to Feel More Connected to Your Body. - What Does Therapy for Embodiment Mean? Many people are familiar with psychotherapy or talk therapy, where the goal is to help us work through our emotions, thoughts, and behaviors to help us have better mental health. This is common for treating depression, anxiety, and lots of other types of mental health struggles. People often seek mental health therapy to help them manage their mood, heal from trauma, and to improve their relationships. Something more people are talking about recently is therapy for feeling more connected to your body which is called embodiment therapy or embodiment interventions if it is part of a more holistic therapy approach. People often find themselves coping with the stressors of life by using a variety of coping skills, and some of these coping skills are not always the healthiest that can lead us to not being connected to our bodies. Therapy can help you feel more embodied and help you reconnect with your body as part of your healing journey. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/how-to-make-good-friends monthly 0.5 2023-03-20 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ccba0c56-48d6-45aa-9131-f54aa1e4c7da/pexels-mart-production-7606074.jpg Blog - How to Make Good Friends. - 2. Assess How You Have Been as a Friend Lately This one is a hard one, and when I work with clients on assessing this part, it is often the one that is the hardest to own up to. The truth is that we all play a role in having healthy and unhealthy friendships. We cannot only blame other people. We have to show people how to be in a relationship with us. Often I explore with my clients how they show up in their relationship, mainly because that is the only thing they really have control over. If a client is sharing with me how terrible a friend has been to them, we explore what was this person's role in the interaction. What can they do? Can they be more direct, and can they place a boundary to help them feel more respected? It is much easier to complain about how other people treat you, but it is harder (and more productive) to look at what your role is and what to do about it. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1668901184814-J70M7ART07N606KICHC0/pexels-cottonbro-studio-5791657.jpg Blog - How to Make Good Friends. - 7 Green Flags of a Good Friend: There is a sense of mutual effort and respect You have shared values (might not be 100% and that is okay!) You like their company You don’t feel too drained after spending time with them You don't find yourself looking for excuses to bail You can trust them There is honesty https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - How to Make Good Friends. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough when we are dealing with generational trauma. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/a994119a-2867-4727-b299-c3c3625326f5/pexels-rodnae-productions-7348737.jpg Blog - How to Make Good Friends. - It is important to have friends, GOOD friends Hi there! Making friends can be hard, and making GOOD friends can sometimes feel impossible. You are not alone, this is something that I talk about with therapy clients all the time, both in San Diego and in the Phoenix area. Lots of people are struggling with making good friends. Often people share that making good friendships and keeping them, seems to be connected with their mental health struggles. That they are depressed because they don’t have good social life. Or that they feel overly anxious with the group of friends they currently have. They aren’t wrong. We know that having a solid group of friends can improve your mental health and well-being. Being lonely can have some serious health consequences, from anxiety to depression, to even physical symptoms. Research has shown that loneliness can have as much of an impact as smoking 15 cigarettes a day, yikes! https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - How to Make Good Friends. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/5-ways-know-if-therapy-is-good monthly 0.5 2023-03-23 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/dfe4d98b-6363-4699-9bcc-72e09ae72fb9/pexels-pnw-production-8998179.jpg Blog - 5 Ways to Know If Therapy is Working. - 5. Have people in your life noticed a difference? This is my favorite sign that therapy is working. In therapy when a client I am working worth shares that someone in their life has noticed a change, my heart sings. Things people tell the clients I work with: You seem more calm and confident You seem more present I feel like we get along better I have notice you stopping to consider my feelings too I see how excited you get to share, you have a voice again You seem happier, like really happy Often therapy the therapy clients I work with in both San Diego and all over California and the Phoenix area and all over Arizona, don’t realize the progress they have made and aren’t able to see that all their hard work is paying off. So when someone in their life notices, it is so refreshing for the client and actually pushes the client to work harder towards their goals. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/e5782bf4-15cb-44a9-9810-bc30a2b1eba7/pexels-matilda-wormwood-4099325.jpg Blog - 5 Ways to Know If Therapy is Working. - Not all therapy is created equal. There are lots of great therapists out there, but there are also a lot of not-great therapists out there. Just like with every profession there is a mixed bag. As a consumer of therapy, it is important that you feel like your time, energy, and money are well invested in good therapy. A good therapist has will help you get to your goals, and increase your confidence in navigating your life. Depending on the type of therapy and the type of goals that you have, therapy can last anywhere from a few sessions to a few years. It is important that you feel like you are making progress, even if you are in therapy long term. Regardless it is important that you feel like you are in good therapy. So what makes therapy good therapy? Keep reading to learn 5 signs that therapy is working that way you can see if your therapy is good. Plus scroll all the way down to get some simple tips to help you find quality therapy. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/50bcbc52-2c26-44c8-87b7-60ce7db4b996/pexels-tima-miroshnichenko-5725435+%281%29.jpg Blog - 5 Ways to Know If Therapy is Working. - 3. Your therapist doesn’t solve your problems for you. A sign that therapy is good and that it is working is that your therapist doesn’t tell you what to do but instead helps you learn how to address the issues in your life. A good therapist wants you to gain the tools you need to be able to solve your issues without relying on your therapist. A sign of whether therapy is working or not, is that your therapist is not telling you what to do, but instead, they are trying to help you understand your problem-solving process so that you can make your own choices that are aligned with your own values. I will admit that in my baby clinician days, I would jump in and try to problem-solve for my clients, it is really hard not to. But experienced therapists know that the most beneficial change comes when clients are able to identify what gets in the way of “better” choices and to help clients work on that. Because by working on the process, you are actually serving the clients in being able to work out future problems too. It is all about creating lasting change. Which is a sign of good therapy and sign that therapy is working. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - 5 Ways to Know If Therapy is Working. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough when we are dealing with generational trauma. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - 5 Ways to Know If Therapy is Working. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/fdfbf9d3-4083-40d8-abed-2de35abdf99e/pexels-ekaterina-bolovtsova-4049786.jpg Blog - 5 Ways to Know If Therapy is Working. - 3. Consider that you might need a different kind of therapy. There are lots of different talk and behavioral types of therapists all aimed at helping people improve their lives and feel better. But sometimes what works for some people does not work for other people. I offer what is considered to be “bottom-up” type therapy where I address the emotions and body sessions to help us guide our conversations and treatment. Talk therapy is helpful but what I have found is that somatic-type therapists, offering therapies like EMDR Therapy, work at addressing root cause issues for deeper, more lasting change, special when I am working with those who have gone through trauma and stressors in their childhoods. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/3-ways-over-working-might-be-related-to-trauma monthly 0.5 2023-03-16 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/295cafdc-988d-405d-b966-36e19ec9338b/pexels-antoni-shkraba-production-8278873.jpg Blog - 3 Ways Over Working Might Be Related to Trauma. - Overworking a “side effect” of trauma? Overworking can be a common “side-effect” of trauma. Being a workaholic can be a result of a recent life experience such as a car accident or a difficult divorce but this can also be from a large stressor from your childhood. We will throw ourselves into work as a form of distraction or as a means to create a sense of safety, we can be a trauma response. Overworking as it relates to trauma can also be an accumulation of “little t” traumas from your childhood. In today’s post, I want to talk about 3 possible reasons we overwork and how it might be connected to trauma and then I want to give you 3 ways to help you shift your relationship with work. As I refer to “work” this can also to working as a stay at home parent, hobbies and side hustles, and students. Work is not just the typical 9-5 office job. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - 3 Ways Over Working Might Be Related to Trauma. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/f9b203c5-1db5-4375-982f-129cd2856c87/pexels-ekaterina-bolovtsova-4050218.jpg Blog - 3 Ways Over Working Might Be Related to Trauma. - 3 things that you can start doing now to shift your relationship with work. 1. Meditate before you start your work day. 2. Make a work genogram. 3. Schedule in time for rest and fun. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - 3 Ways Over Working Might Be Related to Trauma. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough when we are dealing with generational trauma. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/e3154ba5-3bca-41ae-a50c-4bfc66a7508d/pexels-oladimeji-ajegbile-2696299.jpg Blog - 3 Ways Over Working Might Be Related to Trauma. - Trauma can create some pretty interesting messages about work. Common core beliefs I have worked with my clients are: If I don’t work harder I won’t be able to rest later If I don’t work harder I will be seen as unproductive If I don’t work harder I will be a failure https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/7-ways-to-get-along-with-your-in-laws monthly 0.5 2023-03-15 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/f68f034d-9b49-4091-a5c7-2c84560fc2af/pexels-ron-lach-7803541.jpg Blog - 7 Ways to Get Along With Your In-Laws. - 4. Share Your Concerns With Your Partner in the Form of an “I statement.” We discussing ill feelings about in-laws with your partner, we want to be sure to be using “I statements.” An “I statement” owns that these are your feelings and prevents blame from being put on your partner. This is often something that I teach early on in couples therapy. Rarely does a “you statement” ever get the other person to comply and change their ways. It is almost always a ticket for blame and disaster. A conversation about your in-laws with your partner can look like this: I statement: “I felt annoyed that they commented on our kiddo's clothing again” Simple request: “I would like you to ask them to not do that” Then, both you and your partner can move on to exploring how to meet each other's needs in a calm and compassionate way. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - 7 Ways to Get Along With Your In-Laws. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ccba0c56-48d6-45aa-9131-f54aa1e4c7da/pexels-mart-production-7606074.jpg Blog - 7 Ways to Get Along With Your In-Laws. - 5. Get Curious About Why Your In-Laws Bother You so Much. It is very common for people to complain about their inlaws but it becomes rare to identify what it is that really bothers you about your in-laws. Do they reflect something that you don’t like about the world, about yourself? Do they remind you of someone from your past? These are great topics to explore in journaling and therapy. Often our pet peeves and triggers of others is often the result of deeper things that are worth exploring in a nonjudgmental space with a therapist. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca611437-fb31-43c9-a5a7-f4dff3cfe0a4/pexels-craig-adderley-1835927.jpg Blog - 7 Ways to Get Along With Your In-Laws. - Not again. Now what does my mother-in-law want? You feel that tightness in your chest and you notice your judgy thoughts coming in full swing. If you are struggling with getting along with your in-laws, no worries, time and time again I find myself having this very conversation with the clients I work with. You are not alone and I want to share 7 ways on how to get along with your in-laws. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - 7 Ways to Get Along With Your In-Laws. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough when we are dealing with generational trauma. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/7-ways-to-relax-your-inner-critic monthly 0.5 2023-03-14 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - 7 Ways to Relax Your Inner Critic. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough when we are dealing with generational trauma. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - 7 Ways to Relax Your Inner Critic. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1660513526620-3TQUYTS6XGFXFIUHWOUF/pexels-claudia-barbosa-2023128.jpg Blog - 7 Ways to Relax Your Inner Critic. - Are you a good friend to yourself? If you are the type who is quick to point out your flaws and struggles to acknowledge all the reasons why you are great, you might have a very strong inner critic. An inner critic is basically the opposite of a cheerleader. It flares up when you start to doubt your abilities, and when you find yourself nitpicking. Imposter syndrome anyone? Maybe you struggle with feeling like an imposter and that inner critic contributes to feeling like you have full-blown imposter syndrome, despite having the credentials or experience to back up your name. Often times people tend to be a better friend to others than they are to themselves, something that therapy can help with is improving your self love, compassion, and relationship that you have with yourself. Afterall it is the longest relationship that you will have. If you are wondering how to to get rid of your inner critic or relax your inner critic keep reading. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/is-the-neediness-you-feel-a-healthy-amount monthly 0.5 2023-03-22 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - Is The Neediness You Feel a Healthy Amount? - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough when we are dealing with generational trauma. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/de82b062-63ed-4444-af82-e71cbc6a2b11/pexels-august-de-richelieu-8366758.jpg Blog - Is The Neediness You Feel a Healthy Amount? - 5 Conversations to Have to Explore if You or Your Partner Are Overly Needy. Can you or your partner identify as being a people pleaser? Do you hate conflict? And avoid it at all costs? Do you feel fake in your relationship, like you are performing for the other person? Do you feel intense emotions when the other person says no? Are you struggling with communication? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/abdcf2d4-531e-4354-afb4-f38c75615221/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4670724.jpg Blog - Is The Neediness You Feel a Healthy Amount? - Are you co-dependent or overly needy? Co-dependency is an important conversation to have with your partner, therapist, and most importantly, yourself. As a couples therapist, I often work with couples to explore what is a healthy level of dependence on their partner. Where is the line between someone having our backs, verses I had no sense of self in this relationship? I have spent hours making safe spaces for couples and individuals to explore these tough questions. It is an important conversation. It is important to address because having a healthy level of dependence is what can make the difference between a toxic relationship and a healthy relationship. In this post, I am going to talk a little about how our culture contributes to fear of being co-dependent, and I will give you five conversation prompts to have either with yourself, a therapist, or your partner to start exploring if you or your partner (maybe both) are overly needy. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - Is The Neediness You Feel a Healthy Amount? - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/how-people-pleasing-could-be-a-trauma-response monthly 0.5 2023-03-08 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1671317921262-WZ3Z4LIT0L9UD00EYTV2/pexels-andrea-piacquadio-3807729.jpg Blog - How People Pleasing Could be a Trauma Response. - 5 things that you can do to retrain your people-pleasing brain. 1. Start small and breathe before you give a response. 2. Meditate daily, even for 5 minutes. 3. Don’t jump to conclusions. 4. Tell yourself positive affirmations that don’t feel “gaslighty.” 5. If someone is upset with you or at your behavior, give it space. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/cce5b0f1-1717-4ef0-81ae-533f35a0bddb/pexels-chungnhutphat-13084190.jpg Blog - How People Pleasing Could be a Trauma Response. - Okay, but what if that person doesn’t like this new version of me not people pleasing and they leave? A great point. Setting boundaries and showing up differently in our relationship where we respect others AND ourselves is easier said than done. The money example I use above is a personal one for me and I chose this example because I have been there too. And it is tough to say no, but it is important to show others how to be in a relationship with you. It is important to know what your idea of a good relationship is so that you can surround yourself with loving and healthy relationships. And sometimes that means upsetting others and adjusting your relationships. Grief is a part of the healing journey and a therapist can help you with this, because doing this alone is hard. People stress to me in therapy, that they are afraid to say what they want or think because of the other person leaving. That after they assert themselves, then the other person will no longer be their friend or will no longer want to date them. Even harder when the person is a close family member. It is tough but in therapy, we explore if that relationship was healthy to begin with because a healthy relationship is one where BOTH people are respected. As a therapist practicing in San Diego and all over California and in Phoenix and all over Arizona (Yay! To being dually licensed) this is a conversation I have all the time, at least a couple times a week. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - How People Pleasing Could be a Trauma Response. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/e8c4dc42-72b3-430c-97aa-a7f92707a1b5/pexels-rodnae-productions-5616267.jpg Blog - How People Pleasing Could be a Trauma Response. Are you a people-pleaser and do you find it hard to make choices, set boundaries, and be okay with other people having THEIR feelings? Welcome to the club. As someone who is in recovery from people-pleasing, I can relate and so can hundreds if not millions of people who struggle with people-pleasing tendencies. As a therapist who specializes in inner child work and trauma recovery, I work with lots of people who are working on putting themselves first in a compassionate way that respects not only the other person but also their own self. I will go over 5 signs you are a people-pleaser and 5 ways to help you as you learn to show up in a healthier way in your relationships. But first I want to go over how this might be connected to trauma and I urge you to consider speaking with a professional. You do not have to walk this alone. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - How People Pleasing Could be a Trauma Response. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough when we are dealing with generational trauma. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1661114024359-XVAPFLN1CXDVC5DU091W/pexels-wallace-chuck-2941570.jpg Blog - How People Pleasing Could be a Trauma Response. - 5 signs that you might be a people pleaser. 1. You struggle with simple choices. 2. You are too “go with the flow.” 3. You overanalyze your social interactions. 4. You say sorry a lot. Like a lot. 5. You don’t like others being upset with you. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/5-ways-to-improve-the-joy-in-your-relationship monthly 0.5 2023-03-03 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/4f98d1bf-6c6a-4ae9-a0ce-a29052060b30/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4670724.jpg Blog - 5 Ways to Increase Joy in Your Relationship. - 5. Have a weekly meeting with your partner The Gottmans, researchers in relationships, call this the “State of the Union” meeting. I urge the couples that I work with to set time aside each and every week to go over the goods and the bads of how their relationship is doing. Lots of couples are reluctant to do this in the beginning, because they are afraid of stirring the pot, so to speak. But they soon see the importance of tackling issues before they become bigger. Plus it is so important to acknowledge the things that are going well to support feelings of appreciation. Appreciation is one of the number one things most people fight about in their partnerships. People report that they feel like their partner doesn’t appreciate all that they do. And to make it worst their partner only points out what is wrong. At these weekly meetings, I encourage couples to go on walks together or to sit down over a cup of hot chocolate or tea. This way it becomes a ritual between the couple. These weekly meetings can help you and your partner stay on track and serves as an opportunity to share appreciation. This helps us feel more joy. As a Latina couples therapist, I often explore with clients impacts that their culture, race, and upbringings play. Often these weekly meetings are nerve wracking because we often don’t come from homes where feelings were talked about and issues were addressed in a loving way. Therapy can help make this the norm in your relationships. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - 5 Ways to Increase Joy in Your Relationship. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/e2fe9c98-2ba5-4793-9b7d-304338e63d0a/pexels-andres-ayrton-6578808.jpg Blog - 5 Ways to Increase Joy in Your Relationship. - Is your relationship feeling like all work and no play? Are you tired of feeling like your relationship is all work, all the time? You find yourself arguing and working on improving your communication, improving intimacy, and improving the love that you feel. But is this how relationships are supposed to be, all work and no play? Nope! As a couples therapist supporting couples all over San Diego and California and in Phoenix and all over Arizona, I am here to share 5 ways how to increase joy and play in your relationships. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/533987e9-7538-4278-b677-ac77bf866200/pexels-anna-tarazevich-5080666.jpg Blog - 5 Ways to Increase Joy in Your Relationship. - 2. Don’t be afraid to play like children I know for myself that I absolutely love letting that silly child side of me play with my husband. And there is something magical about seeing that side of him come out too. When we soften up around our partners, we are able to build more safety and security in our relationship. Most relationships are made of an anxious partner and an avoidant partner. This matchup is why many couples engage in a “push and pull” dynamic when it comes to arguments. But when we play with our partners, we have the opportunity to teach our brains to relax around this person. This is how I have helped many couples become more secure in their relationships. The same applies to the individual clients I work with who have had trauma. Play is like medicine for the brain, in helping feel safe again. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - 5 Ways to Increase Joy in Your Relationship. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough when we are dealing with generational trauma. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/7-ways-loneliness-might-be-impacting-you-post-pandemic monthly 0.5 2023-03-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1653249190735-PA7SQEUY0VU6HOVPWL3F/pexels-oladimeji-ajegbile-2696299.jpg Blog - 7 Ways Loneliness Might be Impacting You Post-Pandemic. - Repeat after me: your value does not come from your productivity. ' Work is good. It gives us a sense of purpose and fulfillment and also gives us the money we need to live. But working too much is going to take away from other areas of your life. Your relationships will suffer if you are working too much. Please breathe as you being to explore your relationship with work. As a trauma therapist practicing online in San Dego and all over California and in Phoenix and all over Arizona, one of the biggest things I have supported people with over the last few years is addressing their burnout. People are burnt out to the point where they often label themselves as crispy. They find themselves irritable and just not feeling any happiness. So please don’t overwork yourself. Your value is defined by your productivity. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1653021108259-PGS05GMORJPYV6HYYASB/pexels-rodnae-productions-5616267.jpg Blog - 7 Ways Loneliness Might be Impacting You Post-Pandemic. - 7 ways loneliness might be impacting you post pandemic You feel like you have no “real” friends You feel bored when you are around others You find yourself feeling guilty for staying in You have been overworking You find it hard to relax and fall asleep at night You notice that you have become more judgmental You are struggling with your identity https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - 7 Ways Loneliness Might be Impacting You Post-Pandemic. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - 7 Ways Loneliness Might be Impacting You Post-Pandemic. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough when we are dealing with generational trauma. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/do-i-have-ocd-autism-adhd-or-is-it-trauma monthly 0.5 2023-03-14 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/abdcf2d4-531e-4354-afb4-f38c75615221/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4670724.jpg Blog - Do I have OCD, Autism, or ADHD. Or is it Trauma? - Why having a trauma informed couples therapist is important. If you are struggling with symptoms and it is getting in the way of the relationship you have with your partner, it is so important to work with a trauma informed couples therapist. A trauma informed couples therapist can help you both identify if this is neurodiversity, trauma , or something else. It is so important to get the right care to support the healing so that you have the relationship of your dreams. One where you feel safe and secure, not one where you feel like you and your partner are walking on egg shells. If I am working with a couple, I often will use EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) to help couples see each other's unhealed trauma and work with one another with compassion to reduce defensiveness and be the support for one another that they desperately need. It can be scary to share what happened to us, but it can help our partner build a love map, a relationship map, where they can work with us in navigating when things get hard. All of sudden, we get more information about why our partner acts the way they do, and how to support and work with them instead of against them. This is a game-changer! With the couples I work with, if one of the partners has ADHD, autism, or OCD, this becomes a big part of our therapy together. My main goal is to reduce shame around the person who has a diagnosis of being neurodiverse, to create a relationship where each partner is supported, and where the couple works as a team to address the diagnosis. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1661121359698-11G32W6K691MEDMMHDH3/pexels-rfstudio-3843292.jpg Blog - Do I have OCD, Autism, or ADHD. Or is it Trauma? - Why you need to work with a trauma informed therapist. As a trauma therapist, I work in the San Diego area (all of California, really since I am a telehealth therapist) and also in the Phoenix area (all of Arizona too!) I see my clients through a deeper lens, where I am asking myself, is this a trauma response? Could this be related to that thing they shared? Or another thing we have yet to explore? As a trauma therapist, I think of themes. If you had a terrible experience as a child, you might be struggling with negative thoughts that often have a theme. I work with my clients to figure out these themes because odds are they are still playing out in their day-to-day life. Working with a trauma informed therapist will help you by getting treatment from someone who has been trained to think through a trauma lens. A trauma informed therapist will assess if what you are struggling with is related to trauma or if the symptoms that you are experiencing are related to something else. Finding the right therapist in general is so important. It is important to ensure they have the training needed to support you in reaching your goals. This will save you time, money, and help you get to your goals faster. Plus you be able to access the right therapy treatment for your needs. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - Do I have OCD, Autism, or ADHD. Or is it Trauma? - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - Do I have OCD, Autism, or ADHD. Or is it Trauma? - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough when we are dealing with generational trauma. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/inner-child-therapy-san-diego-phoenix-bipoc-latina monthly 0.5 2023-02-22 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1674423723811-4AB79AT6F7UZG8CL684D/pexels-pixabay-236215.jpg Blog - 5 Ways Inner Child Therapy Can Help You Heal. - What is inner child therapy? Inner child therapy is an approach to therapy, often a type of trauma-informed therapy, that can support a person in healing deep negative core beliefs. A negative core belief is a thought that gets in the way of living our best lives and often has its roots in childhood or a past negative experience. As a therapist trauma therapist and couples therapist supporting clients with these very issues, online in San Diego, and all over California and in Phoenix and all over Arizona, I love supporting people in getting in touch with and healing their inner child wounds. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - 5 Ways Inner Child Therapy Can Help You Heal. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough when we are dealing with generational trauma. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1671317921262-WZ3Z4LIT0L9UD00EYTV2/pexels-andrea-piacquadio-3807729.jpg Blog - 5 Ways Inner Child Therapy Can Help You Heal. - More than just a catchy thing we hear about. Inner child and inner child therapy may be part of pop culture lingo, but in the therapy room, it is very much a real thing. Time and time again my clients love using this language and have reported that it has helped them to love themselves, increases their confidence, and helped them interact with the world in a more beautiful way. . https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/abdcf2d4-531e-4354-afb4-f38c75615221/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4670724.jpg Blog - 5 Ways Inner Child Therapy Can Help You Heal. - Inner child work for couples. As a trauma-informed EFT couples therapist, I also support people in being curious about their partner or spouse to increase compassion for the little child sitting in front of them. When we understand our partners' defensiveness as protectors, we can soften and see a child screaming out for love and warmth. This way of doing couples therapy has been a game changer in my practice because it goes further that teaching communication skills and telling people to have a date night. It actually gets down to the root of the issue, our biggest fears, and then with the help of EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) we can change the interaction from dysfunctional to one where both partners are loved and understood. It sometimes feels like magic. And there have been times when I can’t help but get teary-eyed with my clients and couples, watching them ask for their deepest needs to be heard and having them be received with love by their partner. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/8d781412-4814-4731-84e8-b49d93056fda/pexels-claudia-barbosa-2023128.jpg Blog - 5 Ways Inner Child Therapy Can Help You Heal. - But was what I went through really that bad? I often work with people, who either minimize what they went through or honestly did not seem to have it “that” bad by society's standards. A lot of the work that I do with people is to slow down and consider that maybe this might be impacting their current life. For example, if we use the case above, where I am struggling with relationships, my outlook can drastically change. We know that improving the relationship that we have with ourselves is crucial for having good relationships with others. You have to love yourself well to love others well. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - 5 Ways Inner Child Therapy Can Help You Heal. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/5-common-signs-you-have-a-wounded-inner-child monthly 0.5 2023-02-21 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/deb1ff6d-63fa-4647-89aa-8e98360e66ae/pexels-pixabay-236215.jpg Blog - 5 Ways a Wounded Inner Child Shapes How You Live Life. - Sometimes our brains can’t tell the difference between the past and the present, especially if we went through trauma. If your inner child often witnessed chaos, was traumatized, or went through stressors that were ego damaging, then you might have an inner child who has wounds. These wounds can have lasting affects well into your adult years. Often people start to notice this once they are raising their own kids, as our own kids will often activate our old wounds. People find themselves struggling with depression, anxiety, and feel like they are on the verge of burnout. Are you wondering if you have an inner child who was wounded? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/8d781412-4814-4731-84e8-b49d93056fda/pexels-claudia-barbosa-2023128.jpg Blog - 5 Ways a Wounded Inner Child Shapes How You Live Life. - Are you overly judgy or find yourself struggling to see things from a balanced perspective? People with negative mindsets struggle to see the world from a place of calmness and curiosity. This can impact a person's views on everything. From their work to their relationships to their own self-love and self-worth. So why does this happen? It has to do with the way our brains work when we are developing as children. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - 5 Ways a Wounded Inner Child Shapes How You Live Life. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough when we are dealing with generational trauma. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/576ce7f2-3f9b-41f2-bbcf-ec582bc83a3e/pexels-phumlani-nangu-13655469.jpg Blog - 5 Ways a Wounded Inner Child Shapes How You Live Life. - The 5 Ways a Wounded Inner Child Shapes How You Live Life: One: You see the world through a negative lens. Two: You struggle to give and receive love. Three: You struggle with your money mindset. Four: You struggle with insecurities and people-pleasing tendencies. Five: You live life in constant crisis. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1661121753796-EEHTZ1TF7FC7EUXAXHKB/pexels-cottonbro-3826681+%282%29.jpg Blog - 5 Ways a Wounded Inner Child Shapes How You Live Life. - “But what if they get mad at me because I say no?” -something I hear at least once per week If you struggle with being insecure, anxiety-driven, perfectionistic, or people-pleasing tendencies, then you, my friend, may be struggling with a wounded inner child. These ways of being are often built up in childhood as a means of protecting us. Something common I see is where a client of mine struggles with conflict because they grew up in a home where conflict was unhealthy and often left tension so thick that it felt deeply uncomfortable. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - 5 Ways a Wounded Inner Child Shapes How You Live Life. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/emdr-therapy-for-when-talk-therapy-isnt-enough monthly 0.5 2023-01-16 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1660519008891-4BUNNLPOQ33UK5GTZJIC/pexels-liza-summer-6382659.jpg Blog - EMDR Therapy For When Talk Therapy Isn’t Cutting It. Remember “trauma is what happens within you as a result of what happened to you”, a beautiful quote from Gabor Mate. If you haven't heard of him, I highly suggest you do a YouTube deep dive or get your hands on his latest book, The Myth of Normal. As an online Therapist practicing therapy in San Diego, and all over California from San Francisco to Los Angeles, I have seen just how effective EMDR therapy is for my clients, and it can work for you too. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - EMDR Therapy For When Talk Therapy Isn’t Cutting It. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough when we are dealing with generational trauma. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - EMDR Therapy For When Talk Therapy Isn’t Cutting It. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ccba0c56-48d6-45aa-9131-f54aa1e4c7da/pexels-mart-production-7606074.jpg Blog - EMDR Therapy For When Talk Therapy Isn’t Cutting It. - 3 reason to consider EMDR Therapy Sometimes talk therapy can feel like you are going in circles, not really addressing the root issues. EDMR is a somatic therapy meaning that it addresses your mind and body for deeper healing and relief. EMDR therapy often continues to work well after your session, meaning your progress will be quicker and will help you get to your goals faster. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/wait-was-that-really-trauma monthly 0.5 2023-03-21 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1661656018875-5RN73L2ZOE6R1D5S4HX6/pexels-liza-summer-6382634.jpg Blog - Wait, Was That Really Trauma? - Trauma is what happens within you due to what happened to you. As an online therapist treating people in San Diego and all over California, something that really upsets me is when I have a client tell me that someone else told them, that what they went through is not traumatic. Like what? No. If you feel it was traumatic and has left you with wounds then yes it was probably trauma. I think this is a shift that we are seeing more and more in the mental health field, and I love it because this way of viewing trauma helps reduce shame. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - Wait, Was That Really Trauma? - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough when we are dealing with generational trauma. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - Wait, Was That Really Trauma? - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/59805ace-9f86-472b-8634-df8ed01437d5/pexels-mart-production-7606074.jpg Blog - Wait, Was That Really Trauma? - So how do you heal from trauma? Well, my fellow humans, that is a very loaded question. Trauma healing is a journey, one that can feel downright scary and horrible at times. I often think about how it can feel like a complete demo and remodeling, while trying to free up the true essence, spirit, or unburned energy that was there before the trauma. Three things that you can do to heal your trauma include, journaling, meditation, and therapy. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/three-real-reasons-why-you-always-fight-with-your-partner monthly 0.5 2023-03-21 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - The Three Real Reasons Why You Always Fight with Your Partner. - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy. My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough when we are dealing with generational trauma. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1670795573527-XYKFZ6U6QRS7JEOXY5X0/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4308049.jpg Blog - The Three Real Reasons Why You Always Fight with Your Partner. - Hi there! As a licensed marriage and family therapist with extensive, specialized training in trauma and couples therapy, I am passionate about helping folks in their relationships. I further specialize in couples therapy for BIPOC as I have both lived and extensive practice working with intergeneration trauma and how this shows up in relationships. I offer both individual trauma treatment and trauma-informed couples therapy. I help couples figure out how to break the cycle of constant arguments. It isn’t easy and you don’t have to do it alone. Are you wondering the real reasons why you and your partner constantly bicker or fight? Keep on reading! https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - The Three Real Reasons Why You Always Fight with Your Partner. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/898420c9-fbe2-4fcd-8de1-15c7dee64311/pexels-karolina-grabowska-6134957.jpg Blog - The Three Real Reasons Why You Always Fight with Your Partner. Attachment has a big deal on how we interact as adults in our platonic and romantic relationships. Not having enough awareness and not doing the work needed to heal from stressful and traumatic situations, could very well mean that we may be doomed to repeat our history. Often I work with couples to explore how their family of origin impact them and how it might impact their relationship. Maybe roles are causing conflict, or it could be related to not being able to navigate conflict at all. Conflict is often something that people struggle with because conflict was always a bad thing growing up and often kids will internalize this belief to mean that they are fundamentally bad. EMDR therapy can help with address this and related issues on a nervous system level. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/8d781412-4814-4731-84e8-b49d93056fda/pexels-claudia-barbosa-2023128.jpg Blog - The Three Real Reasons Why You Always Fight with Your Partner. Sometimes we pick fights with our partners because it is a reflection. It really isn’t about them and it is all about our own internal struggles; they just happen to be playing out in our relationship. In other words, you might be projecting your own feelings onto your partner in a phenomenon known as projection. As an example, let’s say a Kris finds themselves getting upset when they notice that their partner is not doing anything while they are tidying up the house. While they are hard away at work, Adam is relaxing, happily napping. Kris wonders to themselves, “How dare they nap, can’t they see the house is a mess and it won’t be ready for the dinner party?” But if Kris was able to sit with why this bother’s them so much, they might be able to get down to the root of the issue. Perhaps this would sound like this “When I rest, I feel guilty because there is something that I need to be doing. Doing things makes me feel productive. Being productive is how I show love or what I need to do to deserve love.” https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/why-do-you-keep-having-the-same-argument-over-and-over monthly 0.5 2023-03-20 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1666894581959-TZ155F8CSW2IUDJX8FRP/Mindfully+MInding+Me+logo+large.png Blog - Why Do I Keep Having the Same Argument Over and Over? - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/25b25d97-4171-411b-bed0-798e101f40bb/pexels-liza-summer-6383204.jpg Blog - Why Do I Keep Having the Same Argument Over and Over? - Reason number two: You are too triggered to listen to each other. The next thing I notice often in my San Diego therapy practice is that people are trying to have conversations when they are too “hot.” By hot I am talking about how your nervous system fires and gets way too much energy to properly process what is going on. I often ask people to be honest and think about their own limits on how “hot” they can be in order to still be in the right frame of mind to argue and work through a conflict with their partner. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/ca3d178d-44c2-488e-931c-6e54ca79cd72/IMG_5460.jpg Blog - Why Do I Keep Having the Same Argument Over and Over? - Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair! Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough when we are dealing with generational trauma. I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room. Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/889694d0-aff4-4ed0-96ed-953ef141fc33/pexels-rodnae-productions-6670198.jpg Blog - Why Do I Keep Having the Same Argument Over and Over? - Here we go again. That’s what you are telling yourself as you and your partner find yourself in the same argument…again. Have you ever wondered why you keep having the same argument over and over again? Maybe you find yourself after the fact, feeling like the argument was silly or maybe you really can't remember what it was even about. All you know is that you felt triggered, defensive, and unheard. And your partner just didn’t seem to understand you. You're not alone. Lots of people find themselves arguing over the same stuff over and over again. Lots of people feel like they can never revolve conflict with their spouses without it escalating to where you're shouting at the top of your lungs or someone is shutting down. As a couples therapist, I want to share with you 3 reasons why you might be arguing constantly with your partner. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/de82b062-63ed-4444-af82-e71cbc6a2b11/pexels-august-de-richelieu-8366758.jpg Blog - Why Do I Keep Having the Same Argument Over and Over? - Reason number three: It might be a deeper life dream or view. Sometimes people are arguing over and over again because there is a deep life dream or goal that is not being recognized an fulfilled. Maybe you or your partner wanted to travel more and are not making it a priority. And you are resentful that the budget is not factoring in this dream. Maybe you want to be more carefree and not so constrained as you felt in your family of origin growing up. So when your partner tells you that you are a slob you might be taking it more personally, and instead, this could be a beautiful conversation where you explore and check to see if your dreams are being met. It is so important to have these deeper conversations with your partner. I often tell the people that I see in my San Diego therapy practice, that the reason people find themselves no longer recognizing their partner and feeling like they are married to a stranger is that they have not been putting in the effort to update their love maps. Love maps is something that the Gottman’s, who are famous for their research on successful partners, have urged people to take very seriously. In Gottman Therapy, the idea is that the more detailed and filled out your love map is with your partner the more satisfying and healthy your relationship with be with your spouse. And making live dreams come true can bring couples together in such a deep and loving way. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/what-to-consider-when-quiet-quitting-your-family monthly 0.5 2023-02-05 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/4e83d327-b112-4c51-92c5-e29030f7c456/pexels-monstera-5384450.jpg Blog - What to Consider When Quiet Quitting Your Family. Though quite quitting may not be the answer for the long term, it very well might be what people need in order to make changes where they can. I am so grateful for the work that I do because I can see the relief people achieve when they are able to put themselves first and make strides toward a healthier, more sustainable life. This in turn makes for healthier relationships with our partners, children, and communities. And that is where I believe real change will happen. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/8d781412-4814-4731-84e8-b49d93056fda/pexels-claudia-barbosa-2023128.jpg Blog - What to Consider When Quiet Quitting Your Family. - If we don’t listen to our thoughts, feelings, sensations, bodies, and minds, they will get louder until we listen. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/bd40bd3c-b175-4c20-bd0c-22935f47ecb0/pexels-andrea-piacquadio-3807729.jpg Blog - What to Consider When Quiet Quitting Your Family. Maybe you have quiet quit your job and now you want to quiet quit your family. Or maybe you are just wondering what this next trend is all about. Or maybe you have decided that this is for you and now you want to learn how to quit quiet your family. You are in the right place, keep on reading! https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/how-to-argue-better-with-your-partner monthly 0.5 2022-12-11 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/bfa13cf8-b8e0-4f36-8c3a-4e8bf45c8c38/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4308049.jpg Blog - How to Argue Better with Your Partner. Fights happen, how can they not? We are not always going to agree and that is okay. I often tell the individual therapy clients and couples I see in therapy in my California counseling private practice that the goal is not to get to a place where they never fight again but to fight in a way where neither of you becomes too activated. I stress the importance of fighting in a fair and loving way to help my clients and couples to solve their issues instead of ignoring issues or becoming aggressive. Arguing, in a healthy way, can actually bring couples closer together. Keep on reading to learn 3 rules I share with my therapy clients and couples to help them fight better. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1662404563368-W05NF6UQ83EZZ4V7TC1H/pexels-cottonbro-3692759.jpg Blog - How to Argue Better with Your Partner. That’s it! Those are my top three rules for fighting in a more fair way. Hopefully, you found some use in this article on how to argue better with your partner and I hope you start using what you have learned to help you fight with more compassion. Also, just as a side, some problems are not really solvable, but these rules can still help you and your partner work through it together and increase your understanding of one another, which goes a long way in having a loving, sustaining, nurturing relationship. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/abdcf2d4-531e-4354-afb4-f38c75615221/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4670724.jpg Blog - How to Argue Better with Your Partner. - 3 Rules for Arguing Better. Rule number one: Make sure that neither of you is too activated to actually have the argument. Rule number two: It is you and your spouse against the issue, as a team. Rule number three: Never stop working on your own stuff and increasing your awareness. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/the-perfect-recipe-for-a-stress-free-thanksgiving-dinner monthly 0.5 2022-11-19 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/737bc8b6-c786-4f60-8b73-0ba8526c1f32/pexels-anastasia-shuraeva-6305641.jpg Blog - A Therapist's Guide to the (Kinda) Perfect Recipe for a (Mostly) Stress-Free Thanksgiving Dinner - Review: 3 tips for a stress-free thanksgiving dinner! (mostly) Boundaries Plan Ahead Respond Instead of Reacting https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/7bb8e082-f7ef-4d7d-9c79-fd299de1dd6f/pexels-rodnae-productions-5847888.jpg Blog - A Therapist's Guide to the (Kinda) Perfect Recipe for a (Mostly) Stress-Free Thanksgiving Dinner - I wanted to break down boundaries just a bit more, so that you can have an understanding on how this might look like come that much anticipated Thanksgiving dinner. We need to talk about boundaries with yourself and with others. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/3987fccc-fd90-4676-a726-c43f799ad1bb/pexels-cottonbro-studio-5791657.jpg Blog - A Therapist's Guide to the (Kinda) Perfect Recipe for a (Mostly) Stress-Free Thanksgiving Dinner Though before we get started I think “perfect” is a bit of a tall order, humans are beautifully messy and complicated and perfection is never really attainable. Plus, the drive for perfection is not a sustainable practice. So if you are looking for a recipe on how to have a good and not a perfect Thanksgiving, a Thanksgiving with less dysfunction, stress, and anxiety, then keep on reading! https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/why-does-my-partner-always-cry-when-we-argue monthly 0.5 2022-11-06 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1661911033118-JTF5LEXUFWWHNQO7CFSF/pexels-rodnae-productions-6670198+%281%29.jpg Blog - Why does my partner always cry when we argue? - Reason Number One: Your partner might be more sensitive than normal because they are under a lot of stress or pressure. Reason Number Two: Trauma might be the third wheel in your relationship. Reason Number Three: Your Partner might have a diagnosis or trait that makes them process information differently like ADHD, Autism, HSP. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/4f98d1bf-6c6a-4ae9-a0ce-a29052060b30/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4670724.jpg Blog - Why does my partner always cry when we argue? - We never want to shame a person for being born the way that they are. Doing so will make it impossible to ever solve marital issues. Therefore I often make sure three things are done. The person with the diagnosis or traits seek out support to help them manage symptoms I ask the partner to learn about the diagnosis, by reading books, listening to podcasts I often ask the partner to consider doing their own therapy work, especially if there is other stuff getting activated within themselves https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/why-the-advice-dont-go-to-bed-angry-is-not-good-advice monthly 0.5 2023-02-27 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/a7c6e8bb-1927-4ca0-9fa3-44a59584ef9d/pexels-rhema-11790891.jpg Blog - Why the advice ‘don't go to bed angry’ is not always good advice. Top 2 reasons it is okay to go to bed angry at your partner: Going to bed angry does not equal that don’t love your partner. Going to bed can help you regulate your nervous system. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/f32f42f7-fc39-4050-b9ea-106a8c427470/pexels-ba-tik-3754276.jpg Blog - Why the advice ‘don't go to bed angry’ is not always good advice. - How to go to bed angry at your partner in a way that makes sense. 1. Call truce. Call break. Use your secret code words. 2. Say that you love each other and that you are also upset. 3. Say that you both can discuss it later at a time makes sense. And turn in for the night. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/de82b062-63ed-4444-af82-e71cbc6a2b11/pexels-august-de-richelieu-8366758.jpg Blog - Why the advice ‘don't go to bed angry’ is not always good advice. At the moment it might feel like solving the issue is the way to go, even if it 2am. But remember nothing good happens at 2am. Going to bed can help you regulate your nervous system and in the morning you will find it much easier to solve the issue at hand. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/how-massage-and-yoga-can-help-you-on-your-healing-journey-from-trauma monthly 0.5 2022-10-09 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1653577534412-DM3WIIENXERWW0NYJ12Y/pexels-rodnae-productions-8172935.jpg Blog - How massage & yoga can help you on your healing journey from trauma. Healing and recovering from trauma can be isolating. Therefore one of the first conversations and most followed up on topics that I have with my clients is ensure that we have a community for which we can lean on for support. Being part of a somatic community can help you connect with other humans who may be on a similar journey that you are on. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/6193693d-6c49-4c96-bcde-6a879d04089e/pexels-rui-dias-1472887.jpg Blog - How massage & yoga can help you on your healing journey from trauma. Three things that somatic interventions can help with include: reclaiming your boundaries the releasing of stress & trauma the creation of a healing community Let dive on in! https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/8d781412-4814-4731-84e8-b49d93056fda/pexels-claudia-barbosa-2023128.jpg Blog - How massage & yoga can help you on your healing journey from trauma. An attachment wound is something that is a result of a relationship hurt, often from a caregiver when we are young or a romantic partner who treated us very poorly. Common types of attachment wounds can result from having an emotionally unavailable parent. For example a parent who is depressed or has to work long hours to provide for the family. Another example of an attachment wound is parents getting divorced. These attachment wounds can often set a foundation of thinking about a relationship as being something that brings pain and therefore something to have extreme caution with, or all together to avoid. Attachment wounds can continue to show up in adult life in relationship at home, with work, and with your friends. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/how-to-talk-about-finances-with-your-partner monthly 0.5 2022-11-19 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/9ff94236-88ca-4f8f-ab04-1897e9d4b3e9/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4308061.jpg Blog - How to talk about finances with your partner. Finances, sex, religion, politics, in-laws, and over all values tend to be the big areas of stress for most couples. It makes sense, these are all complex and they can really stir up emotions. Finance and money are something that is unavoidable for people to talk about. So many aspects of our lives are connected to finances and finances can bring up the most uncomfortable feelings for people. Just as a disclosure, I am not a finance person, nor am I an expert in finances. I highly encourage people to consult with a financial expert. The purpose of this post is to talk about the emotional and behavioral impact money can have on a couple. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/7aaf666e-f97a-48c3-b029-4901b9a82672/pexels-zen-chung-5529537.jpg Blog - How to talk about finances with your partner. So where does the fear come from? More often than not people's fears about money start way back from their family of origin. In couples therapy we will often explore where the fear of money comes from. These are truly beautiful but difficult conversations to have with your partner. I feel like a person's financial history is a crucial part of building a good love map. A good love map helps a person navigate conversations with their partner and helps a person understand their partner on a deeper level. If someone learns that their family lived paycheck, all of a sudden it makes sense why spending is something that they are deeply uncomfortable with. It makes sense why they get upset when their partner spends money on lunch, even if it is rare, when there is food at home. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/7b2f711f-9ed8-408d-bac4-61e7e81aa275/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4247763.jpg Blog - How to talk about finances with your partner. - 3 tips on how to have successful money conversations with your partner. Stay curious Have a budget and monthly money check-in Do you own money mindset work https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/am-i-spending-too-much-time-with-my-partner monthly 0.5 2022-10-09 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/4f98d1bf-6c6a-4ae9-a0ce-a29052060b30/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4670724.jpg Blog - Am I spending too much time with my partner? - Am I spending too much time with my partner? Do you have all the same friends? Or do you have your own friends? Do you feel FOMO when your partner goes out or maybe you struggle to go out on your own? Do you find yourself blinding agreeing to what your partner thinks? Do you find yourself doing hobbies on your own? Do you even have your own hobbies? Do you ever feel like there are not enough hours in the day to do the things that you want to do? https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/how-childhood-trauma-impacts-play-and-rest-in-adulthood monthly 0.5 2022-10-24 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/59805ace-9f86-472b-8634-df8ed01437d5/pexels-mart-production-7606074.jpg Blog - How childhood trauma impacts play and rest in adulthood. People love to work. Whether you are working on your marriage or working on yourself, you need moments of rest, moments of play. We cannot go day in and day feeling like we are working on a house project that never ends. And that is where many of the people I work with find themselves. They feel like they are constantly on this self improvement journey. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/bb3d2a9c-d078-48ca-bc51-a85258f04272/pexels-rodnae-productions-7348737.jpg Blog - How childhood trauma impacts play and rest in adulthood. - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/is-therapy-for-me monthly 0.5 2022-09-12 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/9f6f32da-e57c-4da9-8a3b-d453037b1c95/pexels-vlada-karpovich-4050356.jpg Blog - Is therapy for me? I am a trauma therapist at heart, and I worked with a wide range of traumas. Oftentimes people don’t even realize what they went through was traumatic and me being able to explore this with them in therapy, has helped countless people make sense as to why they are struggling so much in their present day life. As a trauma therapist I have done extensive training in therapists such as Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and including somatic type therapies like EMDR. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1660520134504-Z1S1TY08NSUUUID0HEPW/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4308061.jpg Blog - Is therapy for me? Are you wondering if therapy is for you? Short answer: Yes. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/three-ways-to-take-care-of-your-inner-child-wound monthly 0.5 2022-09-11 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1661113965935-6VPYYZEDZ2MSCII5C7OZ/pexels-rfstudio-3843292.jpg Blog - 3 ways to take care of your inner child wound. - Three Ways for Healing Your Inner Child: One: Breath Work Two: Talking Back to the Critic in Your Head Three: Make Sure You Have Your Basics Covered https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/0202620d-ccab-4dc9-be1c-fcae5dd5a9eb/pexels-skyler-ewing-6400905.jpg Blog - 3 ways to take care of your inner child wound. Maybe you are wondering what an inner child means or what is an inner child wound? Maybe you are wondering, great, this means more stuff to work through. But it is so worth it to explore what inner wounds you have and to heal them. Healing your inner child wounds can open up a whole new world, a world where some people feel like they are finally able to breathe. In this blog we will cover: what an inner child wound is how it impacts people as an adult 3 ways to help heal it as an adult https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/why-you-want-a-secure-relationship-not-a-healthy-one monthly 0.5 2022-09-05 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/4f98d1bf-6c6a-4ae9-a0ce-a29052060b30/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4670724.jpg Blog - Why you want a secure relationship not a healthy one. Relationship Meditation. Sit comfortably in a chair or lay on the floor. Breathe deeply and just focus on your breath for a few moments. Now I want you to picture a future you. I want you to connect with a happier future. I want you to notice the expression on your face and the way your presence fills the room. Now I want you to bring in your partner. A partner who is as happy as you are. I want you to picture and feel what this happy, safe, and nourishing relationship feels like. Notice any sensations that you have in your body and any thoughts that you may be having. Thank you brain and refocus on this future happy you and this future happy partner. I want you to picture what a day in the life of these two future versions of you and your partner looks like. Continue to breathe, and begin to ask yourself what you can do to help you get to that future you. Notice if your mind starts to point out all the things that your partner needs to do, thank those thoughts, and return to yourself. Breath and welcome this feeling of being in a safe, secure, nourishing relationship. Continue to breathe and when you are ready feel free to rejoin me here in this space. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/c391ada8-4cc2-46e1-801e-79f44e2f2322/pexels-cottonbro-3692759.jpg Blog - Why you want a secure relationship not a healthy one. - Goals for a secure relationship: To show up 100% as you are To have a fight in a loving way To grow and evolve continuously along side your partner https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/why-distraction-is-not-the-way-to-deal-with-unwanted-thoughts monthly 0.5 2022-10-09 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/c1f3da9d-5e0c-40e7-8cd0-a39c5001c086/pexels-anna-shvets-5953623.jpg Blog - Why distraction is not the way to deal with unwanted thoughts. Reason Number One: You are keeping yourself from practicing being able to sit with uncomfortable thoughts, feelings, and body sensations. Reason Number Two: You are further driving a disconnection between your mind and your body. Reason Number Three: Pain is an unavoidable part of life, and we don’t want to get in the habit of not living life. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/f9b203c5-1db5-4375-982f-129cd2856c87/pexels-ekaterina-bolovtsova-4050218.jpg Blog - Why distraction is not the way to deal with unwanted thoughts. A good chunk of the therapy that I do with people is slowing down and learning to observe and not react to feelings. We do this with various mindfulness exercises. It is hard in the beginning, but with time this skill becomes easier. A visual I often give people is that we want to be more like a monk and not a volcano. A volcano explodes and explodes hard, often causing a lot of destruction to itself and everything in its zone. We don’t want to explore like a volcano, and I teach people how to tame this part of them in counseling. What we do want to be more like is like a monk, who seems to sit and listen. I like to picture a monk being in a room full of their personal triggers (I am sure monks have triggers, but they just manage them well). They breathe and just observe the uncomfortable thoughts and feelings they have. Maybe they are irritated, disappointed, sad, or bored. And that is okay. The goal is not to push these feelings away, but to just notice them and let them be and let them move along. This takes some work, but with the help of a therapist, skilled meditation leader, or yoga instructor, you can definitely improve these skills. And I hope you do! https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/three-ways-how-trauma-can-show-up-in-romantic-relationships monthly 0.5 2023-05-24 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/9bbdf5b9-784c-445b-81f8-2c6213d33a81/pexels-rodnae-productions-6670198.jpg Blog - 3 ways how trauma can show up in romantic relationships. - Trauma can definitely show up in your relationships. I work with people all over California in my online therapy practice and one of my main specializations is couples. My other is trauma. These two overlap all the time in my work. We fail to realize that most of us have had some sort of trauma or major stress in our lives. From an alcoholic parent, to frequent moves as a kid. Big T and little t trauma. And all these experiences impact how we show up in the day to day life. Keep reading to learn 3 ways trauma might be showing up in your relationship. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/25b25d97-4171-411b-bed0-798e101f40bb/pexels-liza-summer-6383204.jpg Blog - 3 ways how trauma can show up in romantic relationships. I will go over the top three ways that I see trauma impacting the couples that I work with day in and day out in my online California therapy practice. Needing to have big emotions to be seen by our partner Not being able to have a “healthy dependence” Being aggressive or passive in asking for needs https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/fe5175d1-a333-40d0-99b3-56cfec2df856/pexels-cottonbro-3692759.jpg Blog - 3 ways how trauma can show up in romantic relationships. You don’t have to settle. You can have the relationship you want, the relationship you deserve. A lot of people come from homes where healthy communication was not taught. Maybe they were given silent treatment from parents, maybe they learned that the only way to get their needs met was to make a big fuss. We say that we are fine but then our behavior says otherwise, creating tension in the room. I want better for my clients. You can have a healthy secure relationship, no matter what was in your past. I am a firm believer in that. You can get a life where you are at ease in your relationship. Were conflicts don’t send either you or your partner into freeze, fight, flee responses. This is why in my couples work, I find it so important to address trauma with my couples. We don’t know any better, we did the best we could with what we had. And now you can unlearn it and relearn it in away that creates a life and relationship you both deserve. And couples therapy can help. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/5-important-conversations-to-have-in-an-interracial-or-multicultural-relationship monthly 0.5 2022-10-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/44963557-8ca4-4efd-8bf8-b6bee9c5a98b/pexels-tim-samuel-5838911.jpg Blog - 5 Important conversations to have in an interracial or multicultural relationship. Holidays. Which ones are we going to celebrate and how will we be celebrating them? Where? The food. The overall vibe we want to create on these holidays? Religion. Sometimes people don’t realize how important this conversation is until they choose to bring a child in the picture. Having this conversation is so important, and focusing values can help you in navigating this with your partner. Roles and expectations. So important to identify what roles and beliefs you hold about one another. Does gender factor into this? Does culture and race? This goes back to not assume, because that only makes an ass out of u and me. Ha! https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/f68f034d-9b49-4091-a5c7-2c84560fc2af/pexels-ron-lach-7803541.jpg Blog - 5 Important conversations to have in an interracial or multicultural relationship. - Are you in a relationship and do you happen to be a different cultural or race from your partner? Then keep on reading! Honestly, even if you are in a relationship with someone of the same background, you can benefit from this read, because you know I would even argue that we all come from our own micro-cultures, no two family origins are the same. Heck let's break down that future, no two siblings are born into the same family. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/15-positive-affirmations-for-childhood-wounds monthly 0.5 2022-08-18 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/0857b702-b501-4e0f-846a-c27124142ff9/pexels-cottonbro-3831849.jpg Blog - 15 positive affirmations for childhood wounds. - Postive Affirmations can help you: create more positive self talk increase confidence increase productivity increase gratitude improve the quality of your life https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/5-reasons-why-mindfulness-is-so-important monthly 0.5 2022-08-17 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/acf8d3e0-47fb-47ef-a290-b06bae9fe01c/pexels-ekaterina-bolovtsova-4050218.jpg Blog - 5 reasons why mindfulness is so important. - Does this sound familiar? Do you ever feel like you don’t have enough time in the day? Do you want to read more, exercise more, or finally learn that second language? Do you want to create a life that brings you more happiness? I am telling you, mindfulness! https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/d2a98abd-e1b9-422c-b749-a2a9c620ba9d/pexels-cottonbro-4056535.jpg Blog - 5 reasons why mindfulness is so important. - A daily meditation can have a profound positive impact on your mental health journey. As online C-DBT therapist in California, I make it a personal mission of mind to help people consider how mindfulness might help them reach their goals more effectively. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/5-ways-childhood-trauma-can-impact-you-as-an-adult monthly 0.5 2023-03-14 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1d8ee397-252c-4348-bbad-32881fd069ef/pexels-mikhail-nilov-7929419.jpg Blog - 5 Ways Childhood Trauma Can Impact You as an Adult. Childhood trauma does not stay in childhood. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/d0a2441c-99a6-4111-93d4-08feeb97ceff/pexels-claudia-barbosa-2023128.jpg Blog - 5 Ways Childhood Trauma Can Impact You as an Adult. - 5 ways childhood trauma Can impact you as an adult. Emotional connection & regulation Setting Boundaries Success with Romantic Relationships Chronic Physical Illness Being able to Rest https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/psychedleic-intergrated-therapy-in-califonia-online monthly 0.5 2022-10-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/b0e0760b-20ce-4544-9db6-74c8b031c7d4/pexels-anni-roenkae-3625632.jpg Blog - What is psychedelic integrated therapy? Psychedelic therapy is the treatment of mental health disorders with the help of psychedelic drugs such as: Ketamine Psilocybin MDMDA LSD Ayahuasca https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1b7ebcab-9876-4844-9a20-9e2edfd20058/pexels-alesia-kozik-7296126.jpg Blog - What is psychedelic integrated therapy? There are no bad trips, just difficult ones. -unknown https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/online-dialetial-behavioral-therapy-in-california monthly 0.5 2022-08-14 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/b859d186-9db2-47b3-aabc-8aade5ed7b20/pexels-ekaterina-bolovtsova-4050218.jpg Blog - Online Dialectical Behavioral Therapy in California. - Why DBT therapy? Evidence based Protocol not procedure based Heavy focus on Mindfulness https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/9f6f32da-e57c-4da9-8a3b-d453037b1c95/pexels-vlada-karpovich-4050356.jpg Blog - Online Dialectical Behavioral Therapy in California. - Online DBT therapy is just as effective as in person DBT therapy, and many people report that they even prefer it. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/5-ways-to-help-you-prepare-for-online-therapy monthly 0.5 2022-09-25 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/9ff94236-88ca-4f8f-ab04-1897e9d4b3e9/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4308061.jpg Blog - 5 Ways to help you prepare for online therapy. It is so important that we set aside the time for a great therapy session and that means setting aside time without distractions. This is time that you have carved out of the week to work on you and create the life that you want, doesn’t that deserve undivided focus? https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/5-ways-your-relationship-with-your-parents-can-impact-your-marriage monthly 0.5 2022-08-14 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/3afc775c-6486-4ac7-b8c4-f885e98c3160/pexels-pixabay-160994.jpg Blog - 5 ways your relationship with your parents can impact your marriage. - Make it stand out The first relationship we form is with our parents, it is the ground stage where our foundations are laid (I will use the term “parents” but this is true of whoever was your main caregiver”). If we come from chaotic or dysfunctional families, it can be difficult to have a happy, healthy marriage in your adulthood. It is not your fault, you were not taught any better. Keep on reading to learn about 5 ways our parents teach us how to be in healthy, secure relationships. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/9d86ae32-c947-4b16-b522-a5d38315c81f/pexels-cottonbro-3692738.jpg Blog - 5 ways your relationship with your parents can impact your marriage. If you haven’t noticed by now, the other four tips definitely have a theme going, communication. Communication is key to any healthy and secure relationship. We learn about communication from our parents. Day to day small talk, to big sit down talks. Our parents teach us what communication looks like and how to keep a connection with one another. Many of us grow up and realize that we don’t have very good communication skills. It isn’t your fault. Many of us came from homes where we were told to be seen and not heard. Or any disagreement that we had with a parent was quickly shut down instead of explored with curiosity and love. Something I often explore with people in therapy is that emotional connection that they have with their own parents and how to nurture it. As an adult it will take time to unlearn and relearn these mental blocks. It will take time to not tune out your partner when you don’t agree with what they say. Be patient with yourself, because building a loving, secure relationship does not happen overnight. I hope you found this post to be helpful and that you forth and be kind to yourself as you navigate relationships as an adult. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/why-as-a-therapist-i-love-the-movie-encanto monthly 0.5 2022-08-15 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1eacfb97-7f43-465a-871b-daae7f5000a8/pexels-craig-adderley-1835927.jpg Blog - Why as a therapist I love the movie Encanto - Marieble, as the protagonist of the film, is taxed with helping the family heal and move past the hurt. That scene at the very end of the film where she is with her abuelita and we see how the abuelita is sorry for the pressure she has been putting on the family and shares the hurt she feels, had the therapist part in me jumping up for joy. That right there is how families heal. They sit down and have hard conversations, they love without judgment and work towards creating a better family. As a family therapist at heart, I am all for seeing couples, siblings pairs, and adult children with their parents, because the healing that takes place in a relationship is so deep that it can literally help people overcome depression, anxiety, and substance use issues. Even when I see individuals, I use my knowledge of family systems to help people have deeper healing conversations to help them again the life they truly deserve. Just like when I watch Encanto, I am moved when I see people having those moments. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/521d573c-6b8a-410c-a803-0be5703a8126/pexels-andrea-gulotta-12371857.jpg Blog - Why as a therapist I love the movie Encanto Pixar and Disney films have a way of pulling on your heart strings. I know they do for me. One of the latest films, Encanto , was no exception. This movie was about a Latinx family struggling with family dysfunction, disguised as doing what is right for the family…they just had to know thousands of people would relate. This Latina therapist included! Encanto shows Familism, intergenerational trauma, and that families can heal. Keep on reading to see how I, a first gen family therapist just loved this movie and use it all the time in my therapy sessions. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/parenting-your-parents-as-a-kid monthly 0.5 2022-09-05 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/18433493-4af2-4747-9c45-c91c0e6771bb/pexels-leonardo-hidalgo-7939424.jpg Blog - Parenting your parents as a kid. Why people don't realize they were parentified until they are adults? Often people don’t realize what happened to them was a great amount of stress that no 8, 12, or 15 year old should have to bear. Kids are innocent and do the best that they can with the skills that they have. If mommy is sick and wont get out of bed, it is only natural for the child to assume the role of caretaker, who else is going to make dinner? I often see people in my practice exploring the aftermath about how they were parents way before it was their time to do so, way before they had gone through the developmental stages needed to be able to raise another person, whether it’s a parent or their siblings. Often times it takes time and a lot of process work to identify what was “normal sibling behavior” and what was “parentification.” It is often hurtful and grief is common. It is a process to come to terms with what you went through as a child. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/4e25ef5d-af2d-4e74-8840-526544a8b43b/pexels-rfstudio-3843292.jpg Blog - Parenting your parents as a kid. I often tell my client’s what I tell myself, almost daily. My family has done the best that they could with the skills that they had in that moment. This is how we can accept our current reality and push for change. Because acceptance is not approval. Being parentified as a child is something worth exploring and healing from. You might be amazed about how you are able to embrace a new more peaceful way of doing life, where you choose to people please less, lean into your true identity, and put yourself first. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/7aaf666e-f97a-48c3-b029-4901b9a82672/pexels-zen-chung-5529537.jpg Blog - Parenting your parents as a kid. Does this sound familiar? “I had to parent my parent as a kid because my mom was an alcoholic.” “I had to parent my dad because he was depressed.” “My dad left us when we were little and I had to become the man of the house.” https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/how-to-manage-anxiety-from-mass-shootings monthly 0.5 2022-06-13 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1655094036333-UR1VHDOBMM39VAJXMK7F/unsplash-image-ELnxUDFs6ec.jpg Blog - How to manage anxiety from mass shootings. What can I do to manage anxiety from mass shootings? Limit your exposure Talk about it, process it Acceptance (please keep reading to see where I am coming from-because acceptance is NOT approval) https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1655093747782-9ND3BCBMQSNR7D5EF3IM/unsplash-image-sZyojGH31U0.jpg Blog - How to manage anxiety from mass shootings. Mass shootings are on the rise and so are peoples’ anxiety and fear. The news shows mass shooting after mass shooting and it is hard not to find yourself up late at night worrying. Rightfully so people are worried about everyday life such as going to the grocery store, going to school, and even going to a medical appointment. Hopefully this article can provide you with some information on why mass shootings cause anxiety and other mental health issues and how to manage anxiety related to mass shootings. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/how-to-be-a-better-parent-and-break-cycles monthly 0.5 2022-06-09 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/69377905-31ab-4662-828b-5846be04e0ce/pexels-ketut-subiyanto-4473774.jpg Blog - How to be a better parent and break cycles. - Turn towards your child. Often parents will ignore children, intentionally or even unintentionally. Ignoring children can harm their self esteem and create problem behaviors. Kids crave attention; to them you are their whole world. It is important to honor this and turn towards your child when they ask for you. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1654790376045-AWKS2IACRKNZHWF9GKO1/unsplash-image-zQQ6Y5_RtHE.jpg Blog - How to be a better parent and break cycles. Adjust your relationship with them as they age. Help them make the choices that is right for them. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/what-is-little-t-trauma monthly 0.5 2022-06-03 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/efa5bf3c-8d70-4af2-a457-3cf42eb7a226/pexels-charlotte-may-5965969.jpg Blog - What is Little “t” Trauma? Some smaller “t” traumas can look like: Moving frequently as a kid Have an unemotionally available parent Be told to be more or less of something to fit in Going through a painful breakup (romantic or platonic) Living through a pandemic https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/1d8ee397-252c-4348-bbad-32881fd069ef/pexels-mikhail-nilov-7929419.jpg Blog - What is Little “t” Trauma? It is well researched and known that stress, particularly ongoing stress can impact not only the mental health but the physical health of a person. Children are no exception; stress in childhood can greatly impact a person. Often I will see people in my practice who minimize what they went through as kids, and have the biggest look of feeling seen when I say, “hold up, can you tell me more about it? That sounds like it was rough.” The slowing down and giving space to this stressor or trauma, if you will, allows for someone to take up space and gain much needed validation for something they have minimized for years. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/528bf5d6-c9c8-495c-bb82-4d78d17c7818/pexels-mental-health-america-%28mha%29-5543224.jpg Blog - What is Little “t” Trauma? Maybe you have heard about big "T" and little "t" when talking about trauma, and now you are wondering, wait so is one not as bad? Make no mistake, a little “t” trauma is far from little, and the feelings are often minimized. Little “t” trauma comes with its own hurt and pain. It is time we view trauma as a spectrum, not a yes or no. And acknowledge that people can have a mixture of the two which definitely impacts there healing journey. https://www.mindfullymindingme.com/blog/will-yoga-heal-my-trauma monthly 0.5 2022-09-11 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/d2a98abd-e1b9-422c-b749-a2a9c620ba9d/pexels-cottonbro-4056535.jpg Blog - Will Yoga Heal My Trauma? I hope you have a deeper understanding about how yoga can help support you in your healing journey. I encourage you to consider speak with a professional about adding yoga, dance, art, theater, or some other form of expression into your healing journey as often talk therapy is not enough on its own. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/62536ce93c707724acf67850/6193693d-6c49-4c96-bcde-6a879d04089e/pexels-rui-dias-1472887.jpg Blog - Will Yoga Heal My Trauma? Often people wonder about the different ways that trauma can be healed. 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